I’m new to the club, so I’d like to ask for some advice.
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I saw a woman’s profile and thought she seemed lovely, so I sent her an offer.
She kindly accepted. It was only later that I realized she was a Type C woman.
It’s not that I’m opposed to Type C, but I’d like to have several dinner dates, get to know each other through conversation, and move forward only once we both feel comfortable seeing each other. That’s how I feel.
I’ve written something along those lines in my own profile.
I don’t know whether she read it, but was it a mistake for me to send an offer to a Type C woman?
There’s still some time before our scheduled date. Should I consult the person in charge?
Thank you.
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Since she chose C because she wants to receive an allowance for the intimacy as quickly as possible,
if you like her and want to keep the offer as it is, why not give her the same allowance she would receive for intimacy even if you don’t become intimate?
Alternatively, since she’s a C-type woman, wouldn’t it be better to get her consent, be intimate a few times, and then decide whether you want to move to a monthly arrangement?
Whether you decide after just talking or while being intimate, isn’t it basically the same?
On the contrary, finding out your physical compatibility first might be a lucky break.
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Thank you for your question. I’ll answer this one as well.
> I’d like to move forward only after we’ve gone on several dinner dates, talked about various things, and both of us feel comfortable continuing the relationship.
If that’s how you feel, then I think there’s a gap between your expectations and the woman’s.
That said, if this is your first offer and she’s someone you really like, I think you should go ahead and have the date as planned.
When I say “as planned,” though, if you’re classified as Dating Type C and end the date after dinner only, she may misunderstand and think she was rejected.
So I think it would be best to have the staff send her a message beforehand, something like:
“I’m planning for the first date to end after dinner only—is that okay with you? We’re thinking of going to [restaurant] in [location]. The chef there is [details], and previously worked at [restaurant], so the food has an excellent reputation. And so on.”
If she agrees, I think the first date should go smoothly.
However, if you tell her the second date will also be dinner only, there’s no telling how she’ll take it.
If you really want to continue meeting for dinner only after the second date, you’ll probably need to make an effort—for example, giving her the same amount each time as you would for an adult relationship (intimate), perhaps ¥50,000–¥100,000 per meeting. As for the appropriate amount for an adult relationship, discuss it and decide together with her.
If that isn’t possible, I think you’d be better off making an offer to a woman classified as Dating Type A or B1.
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For a first date, both parties are setting aside two hours each. From the woman’s perspective, if she’s getting ready to go but then finds out it’s dinner only, she may end up feeling, “Am I not good enough?”
Conversely, if a Type C woman says, “I’ve decided the first meeting will be dinner only,” she may be accused of misrepresenting her type. It would be better for the staff to let her know beforehand that the first meeting will be dinner only.
You could certainly give her a substantial allowance at the first meeting, but if she gets used to that, it could turn into, “I can receive an allowance without having an adult relationship.” So please be careful.
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You’re a guy, so just go with the flow and see where things take you!
Don’t be so rigid!
That’s how it is in the real world, right?
It’s the same in dating clubs.
In colloquial terms, it’s called “knowing how to get by.”
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If you think she’s a wonderful woman, I’d suggest focusing entirely on making sure she enjoys the dinner date.
If you can’t make your companion have a good time, you won’t get a second date, let alone an arrangement, lol.
Please ask the staff to tell her:
“I’d like to spend just two hours having dinner together. Please come hungry.”
If she isn’t okay with dinner only, she’ll probably decline at this point.
I hope your date goes well.
It’s me.
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If it were me, I’d be happy to go on the first date expecting dinner only (no intimacy) as long as the staff let me know in advance.
But if we’re going to spend several hours together repeatedly for only an allowance that barely covers transportation, I’d find that a little tedious.
Marika
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On the first day, a C-type arrangement lets you gauge your chemistry to the point where:
> “After going on several dinner dates and talking about various things, if we both feel comfortable seeing each other, we can move forward.”
You can also confirm your adult relationship (intimate) compatibility on the first day.
After that, it’s entirely up to you whether you discuss doing dinner only, seeing a movie, going out, or something else on subsequent dates.
However, I believe the basic premise of a C-type arrangement is that you confirm both your adult compatibility and the allowance on the first day.
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You won’t know how things will turn out until you meet and talk, and whether it was a mistake is something neither other people nor you can really know.
The person answering isn’t a fortune-teller.
Dating Type C says, “If you hit it off from the first day, the relationship may develop further.”
Since it says “may,” I think you should simply talk about what you’re looking for during your first date.
If a new male member with whom you haven’t built any trust starts bringing up complicated matters, I imagine the staff would only be put in a difficult position. So, if it were me, I wouldn’t consult the staff.
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I think you should let the coordinator know as soon as possible.
If you’re not interested in a slow-paced arrangement, tell them you’d rather decline.
Alternatively, offer 5 for dinner only (no intimacy).
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