“You’re right that a question box is a place to ask how other people think, so its value lies in being exposed to opinions different from your own, including negative ones.” I agree. Otherwise, there’s nothing to learn. What I’m trying to say is that even when an answer is harsh or critical, there’s still a way to phrase and write it. Don’t you agree?

After reading through your series of questions, I found myself muttering at the screen, “As expected from someone in HR—you really have it together.” At the same time, I couldn’t help thinking, “You’ve picked the wrong place to lecture people on morality. Seriously, lighten up!”

> I think there’s a right way to say or write things, don’t you? That’s true—I agree. Well, as always, I’ll just repeat myself: “That’s one opinion, too.”

Most people have to work every day to make ends meet, but papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t something you actually need for daily life. So if a message board like this is enough to leave you feeling crushed, you’re better off quitting. It’s just not for you. Since you’re an occupational physician, I’m sure that when someone is clearly unsuited to their job, you don’t just advise them to “take a little time off”—you might also suggest, “Why not transfer to another department?” You can think of it as something similar. (When you say grand things like “I work in HR at a major corporation” or “I deal with people’s problems,” it’s rather amusing to think that you’re doing papa-katsu too. Sorry if you aren’t.)

Don’t get so worked up over something as trivial as a dating club Q&A box. People who get hurt by harsh replies they didn’t even have to read in the first place simply aren’t cut out for a world full of monsters like this. Rather than treating them like mentally fragile employees, I think it’s better for them to learn firsthand just how harsh this world can be. The fact that someone can make such a preachy, class-representative-like statement—does that mean this activity has finally become accepted by society?

Whatever the wording, the way it’s written, or what happens, some people respond with heartfelt gratitude—especially when they’ve asked or been told something—while others don’t. It’s only natural that grateful people encounter more things to be grateful for, while those who complain keep finding things to complain about.

I think the questioner fundamentally misunderstands one thing: this isn’t a service for seeking advice about your problems. It may be a platform set up by Universe Club, but no matter how many answers are posted here, Universe doesn’t make any money from it. The people answering aren’t paid either. Unlike the advice columns in TV shows or magazines, this isn’t monetized entertainment. It’s just the wilderness. Kind of like climbing a mountain with a sign saying, “Bears may appear from this point onward.” The bears might occasionally say something worthwhile, but most of the time things will end up getting “bear”-ly manageable. Either way, you get a full live broadcast of someone being attacked by a bear, so it might be entertaining for the spectators. Let me say it again: it’s only fun—nobody makes any money. In that situation, I think it’s a mistake to expect the same kind of compliant, compliance-obsessed attitude you’d get from a paid service. If monkeys at Mount Takao steal your lunch, or seagulls steal it in Shonan, there’s not much point complaining, right? From a bystander’s perspective, though, it makes for great entertainment… (No, not “hitsu-mabushi”—I meant “killing time.”) It reminded me of a conversation while having sex with a woman: “I told you I was coming—why are you still moving? Seriously!” “I did stop, but I just happened to stop right where I was thrusting…” “LOL, you don’t need to get that technically precise about it, LOL.” Taro P.S. Mac: Even just thinking that would be impossible unless you had exceptionally clear diction. I’m pretty sure the only person in Japan who could pull it off is Ichiro Furutachi. Still, having the freedom of 20 strokes is appealing, speaking as someone who believes simultaneous orgasms are the only righteous way, lol. P.S. Kazu: Changing “post” to “surrender” was brilliant. Naturally, the next step is diving into the rose garden. DJ Sōda!

They want attention, validation, agreement—and even when they don’t get validation or agreement, they still expect people to be considerate in how they phrase and write their responses. How greedy can they be? This isn’t a place for emotional support or counseling; it’s a question box. I feel that posts seeking nothing but comfort or counseling don’t really belong here, so I make a point of responding coldly and firmly to these kinds of attention-seeking posts.