I’ve mostly been making offers to Type B women lately, but I’m considering approaching a Type C woman for the first time in a while.
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The last time I approached a Type C woman, I booked a city hotel for daytime use. If she turned me down, I would just work in the room and then head home. However, perhaps due to changes after the COVID restrictions were lifted, I checked recently and found that weekend daytime-use options in my area have become extremely limited—there are hardly any choices besides business hotels.
After thinking it over, I came up with these three options:
① Book an overnight stay to have more choices. If I use an overnight reservation like a daytime stay, would I simply tell the front desk after checking in that my plans have changed and check out? Sorry if this sounds petty, but I’ve never done this before…
② Ask after dinner whether she would be comfortable going to a love hotel from the first meeting. Of course, this depends entirely on her and carries a fair amount of risk… I don’t know whether the women I’ve continued seeing are just being considerate of me, but many of them have said that love hotels are more relaxed and convenient. Even so, I feel a city hotel is probably the safer choice for a first meeting.
③ Make an offer to a Type C woman along the lines of, “Would it be okay if we just had dinner the first time?” With Type B women, the first meeting is dinner only, and if things progress to an adult relationship (intimate), we can discuss the terms then, so I don’t worry too much about it…
I’d really appreciate hearing opinions and advice from both men’s and women’s perspectives.
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Maezawa here.
It’s true that some women may think, “We met through a dating club, so why a love hotel?” A small number may turn you down if they feel you’re no different from someone they met through a dating app. So, for the first time, I think it’s safer to choose a city hotel before you know how the other person feels.
Once you get to know each other better, you’ll probably be able to tell whether a love hotel would be acceptable. So it’s best to consider one from the second meeting onward.
With that in mind, I think option ①—checking out without staying overnight, despite paying the overnight rate—is a good idea. I don’t think the hotel staff would have any issue with it.
Incidentally, I don’t think a business hotel is a particularly good option. If you’re choosing between the two, I’d say a love hotel would be better.
When choosing a love hotel, I think it’s safest to pick one where even the short-stay rate is at least ¥10,000.
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At a famous traditional city hotel with plenty of guest rooms, it’s quite common to have a meal in the lounge and then check in without a reservation anytime after around 3 p.m., leaving whenever you like a few hours later.
When I was younger, outside of dating clubs, I could even tell a woman, “I have a reservation, so I’ll go get the key,” and then smoothly arrange a room at the front desk without any reservation—the hotel didn’t even need to confirm it.
That said, since this is through a dating club, I think it’s better to make a reservation in advance, considering the current hotel situation.
For the person asking, I think the smoothest option would be to reserve a city hotel and slip away there.
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In my case, every Type C woman went to a love hotel that same day.
The only exception was one married Type B woman who had made a reverse offer. She was concerned about being seen by people around her, so we used a city hotel. From the second meeting onward, we went to a love hotel because it was more convenient in terms of time and location.
③
Since the women come expecting an allowance for an adult relationship that day, I felt it was practically obligatory, so I didn’t have the courage to choose not to invite them on the first day.
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I think pretty much the same way as you do.
The only option I’d rule out is number ③.
That said, when you search for day-use rooms on travel sites these days, APA Hotels seem to dominate the results.
So I occasionally book an overnight stay and leave the same day.
If you feel awkward telling the hotel staff when you check out, you might want to choose a hotel—such as one of the JR-affiliated hotels—where you can simply drop your key card into a return box.
I’m pretty frugal, though, so I’ve even checked out at 5 a.m. and gone straight to work because it felt like such a waste otherwise.
Also, going from a lunch date to an overnight hotel stay doesn’t really work timewise, does it?
In that case, I think it’s perfectly natural to go to a love hotel. The other person should understand.
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I’m almost always in situation ②.
I feel like ③ would be a burden unless I gave her a generous allowance.
P.S. Oh, I see—you ask about that before making the offer. In that case, I guess it’s not a problem.
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I always do it the way described in ①.
In fact, I’ve only used a day-use room a few times.
I’ve asked several hotel employees I know, and they said there are countless guests who check out without staying overnight, so they don’t think anything of it.
Respecting guests’ privacy is fundamental for hotel staff.
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Since I’m not looking for an adult relationship right from the first meeting, with C-type women I would either offer a dinner-only first meeting limited to two hours, or arrange a “letter date” and discuss the details directly with her.
That said, as Mac mentioned, this probably won’t solve the hotel issue.
For your reference.
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