I’m currently seeing several monthly arrangement partners whom I was introduced to through the club. They’re all married men in their 30s or 40s, and they’ve told me things like, “Let me know when you get a boyfriend,” and “I’ll give you advice about your boyfriend.” They’ve also said that they want me to be happy.
This content is machine-translated.
I haven’t told them yet, but I’ve had a boyfriend in his 40s for a year now. We met naturally through an acquaintance, not through the club, and money isn’t involved in our relationship at all. I have some concerns, including our age difference, so I’d like to ask my monthly arrangement partners for advice about my relationship.
I’d like to get advice from the monthly arrangement partners who are around the same age as my boyfriend, but would they feel shocked knowing that I’m dating a man around their age? Or would they be happy that I’m asking them for relationship advice?
Also, do they assume that any boyfriend I get would be in his 20s?
Of course, my boyfriend is the most important person to me right now, and I value our relationship above anything else. However, I don’t want to damage my relationships with my monthly arrangement partners either.
My current boyfriend is single, and I started dating him because his looks and personality are exactly my type. I didn’t choose him based on his status or other such factors.
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂20s👑Universe female member
💗Likes0👁️Views79💬Answers12
🔖IDUvHTr-00000🎯Looking for answers from
誰でも
代表者
スタッフ
男性会員
女性会員
バックオフィス
コラムライター
First of all, your romantic life belongs to you and you alone. When your monthly-arrangement supporters find out that you’re in love with a man around your own age, they may feel jealous. But those feelings belong to them, and they should never limit your right to pursue your own happiness.
If you’d like to seek relationship advice from your monthly-arrangement supporters, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, their reactions may vary depending on what you share and how you bring it up, so please proceed thoughtfully.
As for the age of the “boyfriend” they picture, their own motives and expectations may have a significant influence. Of course, on the surface, they may say they genuinely want you to be happy. But that may not necessarily reflect the whole truth. Even so, isn’t what matters most that you’re happy with this person?
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
If you think about it normally, it would be upsetting.
Papa supporters like to play the role of laid-back, understanding men, but there’s no way they’re genuinely going to think, “Oh, good for you!” about something like that.
Personally, I can’t understand why anyone would go to their papa (a male supporter) for relationship advice.
At the very least, I think basic courtesy in any relationship is not doing things that you yourself would dislike if someone did them to you.
Akari
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Well, I’d say it’s generally a no-go.
It depends on the relationship, but you should probably assume that men who are genuinely broad-minded about it are few and far between. That’s just my personal opinion, though.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
If it were a boyfriend her own age, that would be incredibly upsetting to hear. I mean…
That said, being into older men isn’t necessarily a bad thing…
If it were someone she used to date, I suppose that would be okay…
Ideally, he’d be around the same age as her, or at least close to it.
Or maybe she could show me a photo, and I’d feel a little relieved if he wasn’t handsome… But then, if she’s into unattractive men, that would mean something about me too, so I’m not sure whether I’d actually feel relieved or happy about it… It’s complicated.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Hmm… I think I could be supportive if she were in her 20s, but if she were around my age, I’d probably feel jealous. It might also give her the mistaken impression that I’d date her without an allowance, so personally, I feel it’s better not to say anything and avoid asking for advice.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
It really depends on the individual, the relationship you’ve built over time, and the subject matter and way the question is brought up.
Personally, I don’t mind hearing about someone’s boyfriend or his existence. But, as in this question, being made to listen to a story that isn’t interesting in the slightest is simply painful.
Try imagining how you would feel if your monthly arrangement used “asking for advice” as an excuse to tell you all about his everyday life with his wife.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
