Please tell me what I’m doing wrong.

I usually only handle the nighttime questions, but this one made me feel like I had to speak up. I’ve dated a woman who was very similar to the person asking this question. She was highly sensitive and the type who wouldn’t refuse anything the person she liked asked of her, so she ended up having experienced all kinds of kinky play. I teased her because I found her level of experience with that sort of thing amusing, but she got genuinely upset. That part also seems pretty similar to your situation. Deep down, men are little boys forever, and there’s a side of us that wants to treat sex like a toy. So when a woman reacts really well, I think there’s a tendency to escalate things. The woman I dated once lost control and wet herself from climaxing so intensely, and at the time I got pretty excited, thinking, “Whoa!” But after that, she started doing it every time. Eventually, there would even be a noticeable pause that made it seem like she was wetting herself on purpose, and I felt that wasn’t right, so I lectured her afterward. The bed isn’t a toilet, it smelled like urine during the act, the sheets were cold afterward, and it caused trouble for the love hotel staff too. Looking at it objectively, it’s kind of a funny story（笑） After that, she learned to hold it in properly. Sometimes she still couldn’t help it because she was so sensitive, but she made an effort to control herself. I also reflected on taking things too far and started focusing on maintaining the most pleasurable level possible without pushing her beyond the point where she’d have an accident. We began enjoying that delicate, carefully controlled balance together. We also started communicating more frequently during sex, but whether it was because she was wary or because she had misconceptions about what sex was supposed to be like, it took quite a while. As you said, something about that progression does seem off. But to correct it, you may need not only to make an effort yourself, but also to meet a good partner. I don’t think you’re heading in the wrong direction, so please keep working at it patiently. Taro

Kinks attract other kinks. Marika

The more easily you get turned on, the more things tend to escalate. Because it starts to feel like you’re getting intensely aroused and enjoying yourself that much with anyone. Unless you move on to something truly special, you won’t feel that sense of being special. You end up constantly chasing an incredible level of excitement and satisfaction, wondering, “Why am I this sensitive? Why do I climax so much?”—pretty much from the very beginning.

> Even if squirting and leaking from orgasming too intensely can’t be helped, I feel the problem is that they don’t say “I squirted too much” instead of “I leaked.” I imagine some men may want to do more because the woman is highly sensitive and ends up leaking. Even if she leaks during penetration, it seems like she could simply say, “When I get aroused, I squirt.” That said, when a woman is especially sensitive, I do feel there’s a higher chance the man may escalate things, so I think it’s important to clearly say, “I can’t do that” when something is too much. > I’ve only ever seen people who pee from orgasming too intensely in porn, though. I’m not entirely sure, but it does seem more common among highly sensitive people. I think when someone who is highly sensitive has their bladder stimulated, they may end up releasing urine. The site with the diagram below says that the bladder is located directly behind the G-spot, so stimulating inside the vagina with a penis, fingers, or a toy also stimulates the bladder at the same time. Naturally, being pushed firmly can create a strong urge to urinate. https://wpimg.fuzoku-move.net/special/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/8a6e3fe52b1c26c488a47eb1d318fcd7.jpg > When she gets aroused, everything relaxes, so doesn’t that make it difficult for a man to climax inside the vagina? That’s not necessarily true.

I don’t think there’s anything particularly wrong with it. Didn’t you notice while writing this? Everything started with you wetting yourself. That said, the order seems a little off. Hickeys, bite marks, and choking tend to happen more toward the beginning, and I feel like women are often the ones who request choking. Three out of the five women I’m currently seeing regularly have said they like being choked. Apparently Mac does too, but since choking doesn’t do anything for me, I only do it as a service for the woman. Anal seems to have few enthusiasts because the preparation is a hassle compared to the small payoff. Most men who’ve told me they’re into anal have said it’s because they have small penises. This is just a guess, but I think the fact that you wet yourself triggered that man with the thin penis to reveal his anal preference. I’d say being into anal is a niche interest that most men don’t share. If I had to point out anything wrong, it would be wetting yourself. Use the bathroom before sex. Not every girl you see regularly wets herself.