Reading this forum, I always thought, “Surely no one would hide the fact that they’re married. I’d never be deceived.”
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Then I happened to meet a man in his late 40s who casually told me he was single and hadn’t had a girlfriend in years. We even made plans to meet again.
Since he’s a business owner, I could find information about him by searching his name. (The world we live in is pretty convenient, isn’t it? 😭)
He was married and had children.
I thought, “That could never happen to me,” but I almost got deceived.
Why do people lie?
I really don’t understand.
If you were seeing him with marriage in mind, your anger is completely understandable. Even if that wasn’t the case, it’s natural to feel that your trust has been broken.
That said, speaking from the perspective of a married person, he may have been making that excuse to prevent his wife from seeking compensation from you if the relationship came to light. If you were seeing him without knowing he was married, her claim for compensation may not be valid.
I don’t know what kind of relationship you had, but it’s also possible that he kept it from you out of consideration.
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Haha, that happens pretty often. lol
I’m married, and the women I date know that, so I’d say you should take a good look at the person and make your own judgment.
Are they simply a liar?
Or are they a liar with some complicated circumstances?
The fact that he told you his name might mean he’s saying, “If you look me up, you’ll find out I’m married and have children.”
That said, my partner says she actually feels more secure when the other person is married.
It sounds crazy, but even though we’re more than 40 years apart, we’ve been getting along well in an exclusive arrangement for over four years now.
She does want to get married, so I imagine she’ll eventually move on from this, but her standards for a boyfriend are pretty high, so it might take a while. lol
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Did you want to marry someone you met through the club? Is that why you only wanted to date single men?
If so, let the club staff know. Your offers will probably decrease for sure, but you can write in your profile comments that you don’t accept offers from married men, which should help prevent this kind of situation.
If you weren’t thinking that far ahead and were simply upset that he lied to you, then because he told you that lie, there’s a good chance you wouldn’t have to pay compensation even if his wife sued you.
Looking at it that way, the lie may actually have been for your benefit, so part of me feels that it might be better to leave things as they are. That said, without evidence, you won’t be able to defend yourself if you’re sued, so I think you should make sure you have proof that he told you he was single.
For example, have him send you a message on LINE saying, “There’s no doubt that I’m single.”
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If you happened to meet him, that means you met somewhere other than through a dating club, right?
Apparently, that’s fairly common. I suppose it’s because they assume married men won’t get any attention.
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Weren’t you setting things up so that, if your wife found out and sued you, you could respond, “I was told you were single, so I won’t pay any compensation”?
It would be best to pretend you didn’t investigate and claim that you were told he was single.
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