I’m making my papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) debut this weekend. I’m a Type B woman. I’d really appreciate any advice or tips you can share. Looking forward to hearing from those with more experience!
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Regarding your relationship with a Type B woman, she’ll quickly notice any sense of desperation or impatience about pursuing an adult relationship (intimate).
Please try to be smooth, gentlemanly, and show the confidence that comes with being a mature adult!
Especially when it’s a woman you’d love to see again, making her feel uneasy means you’ve already lost!
Don’t be vague about your feelings or interest—try expressing them clearly, openly, and positively!
(If you overthink things, it might instead come across as, “Wait…this is kind of creepy.”)
Good luck!
I sincerely hope this leads to a wonderful connection!!!
Yuki Higashino, Universe Club Staff
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I’m Potassium, and I’ve experienced everything from Type A to Type C.
Well, my own dating style isn’t really relevant, and a lot depends on the woman herself. This is just something to add to what others have already said.
At the very least, make sure you look clean, polished, and appropriately dressed and groomed for the occasion.
Even if there’s a typhoon, your hair should still look neat and clean. Don’t let your overall appearance look shabby.
When you meet up, your first impression starts with, “Could that be her?” from a distance.
If you clear that hurdle at an above-average level:
・Next comes whether you can follow the rules
※The allowance should be given upfront.
If you clear that one too:
・Conversation and table manners
If everything is fine up to that point, then it mostly comes down to chemistry, including the terms of the arrangement, so I don’t think you need to worry too much.
In any case, if you don’t look clean and presentable before you even start talking, it’s an immediate turnoff. So first, I recommend making sure you look decently clean and put-together, even from a distance.
After that, relax, have fun, and enjoy an exciting relationship.
I’m rooting for you.
Just my personal opinion.
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Going for a B-type arrangement on the first meeting makes you quite the challenger.
For now, simply avoiding a bad review is good enough.
Make sure to give her the transportation money.
End the date after dinner only (no intimacy).
And avoid dirty jokes.
Good luck.
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When I was registered as Type B, I appreciated things like:
- Choosing a meeting place that was easy to find
- Somewhere that wasn’t overly crowded
- A restaurant with a private room or another setting where we could talk comfortably
- Giving me the transportation money upfront (putting it in an envelope and briefly showing me to help me feel at ease)
- Creating a friendly atmosphere and smiling
- Asking what I wanted in terms of the arrangement
- Being flexible about the days of the week or dates that worked best for him
Those kinds of things were really helpful to me.
Some people also asked in advance what I wanted to eat and what foods I disliked. Others said that if having a meal made me nervous, just meeting for tea was fine. Even when we met at a hotel, some told me to come in casual clothes.
Looking back, I realize that many people went out of their way to make me comfortable. Learning from everyone’s thoughtful, mature consideration was a valuable experience.
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On the first date, don’t touch her.
Give her the transportation money as soon as you meet. Don’t be stingy and think about giving ¥5,000 or ¥10,000 less depending on how things go. If a ¥5,000 difference bothers you, simply don’t meet her a second time.
Wrap things up after two hours. If it goes over two hours, pay extra.
Keep the conversation light and pleasant through dessert. Don’t brag, and don’t dominate the conversation—aim for an even balance.
You can discuss a second meeting after you get home. Or, if you’re looking for an adult relationship (intimate) on the second date, you can negotiate the terms of the second meeting over dessert. That’s up to you.
Never leave the amount undecided or ask vague questions like, “Are you free after this?”
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For a first date with a Type B woman, everyone has a completely different approach.
① I just have a casual meal with her—nothing private, and I don’t bring up the dating club, the allowance, or the terms of the arrangement.
② On the other hand, some people properly present the terms for a future arrangement in a private room.
③ I also seem to recall someone who hit it off from the very first day, went to karaoke for several hours, and kissed her there.
④ I’ve also seen a man’s column saying that kissing a Type B woman when parting at the end of the first date is effective.
I definitely recommend option ④.
I’d really like you to give option ④ a try!
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