Please Stop Asking Me

Why not simply stop riding in the car of someone who continues seeing you under a false name? If you can’t tell them directly, then why not end things? If you’re just forcing a polite smile without saying a word, only to complain endlessly afterward, then don’t get in the car in the first place. I love people who are good drivers, so I love going for drives. I want to spend time together in all kinds of ways—traveling, golfing, and more. I only see people who feel the same way. Akari

I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this, but… Some people, myself included, enjoy going on driving dates, while others may not, so I think it’s best to mention your preference in your profile. If someone invites you, you can simply decline with any reason, such as, “I get nervous and carsick,” or “I’d feel bad having you drive for such a long time.” I have two driving dates with papas planned for this spring. I’m looking forward to riding in luxury cars I’ve never been in before.

That’s something you should tell your partner. I love going on driving dates— but only with someone who’s a good driver. Marika

It’s a driving date from the very first day. On the first meeting, it’s also fairly common for the girl to choose from several destination options, and for the two of you to head somewhere about an hour away—roughly two hours round trip.

Making the subject broader to hide your own weakness—your inability to say what you really mean to the other person—is pretty arrogant. Isn’t that kind of arrogance what attracts the people you see as dangerous papas? Since it didn’t get through, let me rephrase it: “To all male members: I’d like to ask you to stop inviting women with an allowance of five or more. It throws everyone’s sense of money out of whack, but women find it hard to say no.” LOL By making the subject broad, you can make anything sound like a general opinion. I hope you learn how frightening that can be. Not being able to say no clearly or take action is your own weakness. Not everyone agrees with you, and the fact that you can’t have the kind of relationship you want is your problem. Turning that into something that sounds like everyone’s problem… tch. If someone suddenly tries to take you for a drive, there are plenty of ways to refuse. In fact, you could even say that because you can’t refuse in situations like that, the man keeps doing the same thing to women who share your views. If you want to speak on behalf of women’s wishes, first conduct a survey of women to support your claims, and then make sure you yourself are capable of taking action. That’s the responsibility that comes with claiming to represent women. (Though if you were actually capable of doing that, I doubt you’d be posting your opinions here or presenting your wishes as if you were their representative.) Don’t make broad statements without taking responsibility for them. Honestly, after being registered for a year, I’m more worried about whether you’re really okay. papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is inherently risky, isn’t it? You signed up knowing that, so being unable to take steps to avoid those risks is your own problem. How long are you planning to keep acting like a minor? By the way, I understand the risks and think through how to deal with them, so I go on drive dates. Papa, feel free to invite me for a drive anytime. I’ll bring snacks and chat beside you. V Yay V Drive safely so it doesn’t turn into a memorial portrait! Oh, and I always speak only for myself. I wouldn’t presume to claim I represent women’s opinions. It’s my personal view.

I understand what you’re trying to say, and I also understand wanting to share it somewhere. However, this is a Q&A site, so unfortunately, posts that aren’t questions will be hidden. In this case, I think you could have achieved your purpose to some extent by asking: “Are drive dates prohibited at Universe Club?” Adding a token question to an opinion piece isn’t a good approach, but why not try thinking of a question that allows you to convey what you really want to say?

Why not simply tell the men directly that you don’t like driving or long dates? You should also mention it in your profile. That way, you can avoid mismatches. I enjoy driving, and I’d like to play golf and visit hot springs with my papa (male supporter). I don’t think it’s right to force your own preferences on other people.

Please stop using the anonymous question box to post your opinions.

Many male members of Universe Club don’t read this Q&A site. So rather than saying it’s difficult for women to bring things up, the only option is for you to tell your papa (male supporter) directly that you’re dissatisfied. Also, while you may dislike going on driving dates, there may be women who genuinely enjoy them. As for handling an accident, it wouldn’t be a problem at all as long as your papa isn’t married. And considering that you naturally use a fake name as well, I feel you may be keeping too much distance in your particular situation.