We met for the first time, hit it off, and ended up entering into a mutually consensual relationship, but we parted without even receiving transportation money… Since I had a great time, I couldn’t bring it up before we said goodbye, but I still can’t shake this uneasy feeling…
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Would it be difficult to receive at least the transportation money directly from him through Univa?
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂Not stated👑Universe female member
We repeatedly emphasize this in the information provided for women and recommend that men pay the transportation allowance in advance to prevent situations like this, but it’s still a difficult issue.
There’s nothing strange about feeling unsettled. Contact the club immediately—within 0.01 seconds, if you can—and tell them you weren’t given your transportation allowance. When it comes to transportation expenses, the rules are clear, so the staff are obligated to press the man for payment.
That said, from the staff’s perspective, it can be somewhat irritating too. They may wonder, “What exactly do you want?”
You were intimate, but you enjoyed it, so you suppose it can’t be helped—yet you still want at least the transportation allowance. How are we supposed to know?
The man probably took advantage of your indecisive nature and kept things vague as well. You haven’t bought some “lucky” urn that supposedly improves your fortune, have you?
The club staff will take responsibility for collecting the transportation allowance, so you should simply leave the club. In this world, if you don’t have enough determination to protect yourself, you’ll only be taken advantage of and end up hurt.
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You’d only get 5,000 to 10,000 yen for going out of your way to report the transportation fee, inconveniencing the staff, and making the man think, “Ugh, what a woman,” wouldn’t you?
I wouldn’t take it, and I wouldn’t contact the staff either. Though I might leave some feedback.
If a man contacted me saying he wanted to meet, I’d probably ask what he had in mind regarding the allowance before agreeing to the date.
And I don’t think you need to deal with anyone who says women are a turn-off when they bring up the allowance themselves.
You can probably tell from your messages whether he simply wasn’t used to this and forgot to give it to you, or whether he deliberately withheld it.
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Once you’ve met, the club is no longer involved.
If you want money in the first place, isn’t this a private relationship?
You need to make your own decisions and communicate what you want. Otherwise, it won’t get through to the other person.
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He may have simply forgotten.
You should always receive your transportation allowance at the very beginning of the first meeting.
If he doesn’t give it to you, you’ll have to bring it up tactfully yourself. Some people may forget that they’re supposed to give transportation money, while others may deliberately withhold it.
If you don’t receive it in a “free love” arrangement, does that mean he doesn’t intend to see you again? That would still violate the rules, though…
I don’t think you should rely too heavily on the staff to collect the transportation money for you.
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If you hit it off and things progressed into a relationship outside the club, you must have some way to contact each other, like LINE… At the very least, you exchanged phone numbers if you’re meeting up, right?
Rather than involving the staff, I think it might be better to tell him yourself. Though I know it’s hard to bring up—good luck!
*Sorry for answering even though I’m not staff.
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Universe Club has a set policy of giving ¥5,000 to ¥10,000 for transportation expenses.
If you let the staff know, they should be able to confirm it with the man and arrange for you to receive it through Universe Club.
That said, if you had an enjoyable date, why not first ask the man, “I haven’t received my allowance yet”?
If he says something like, “It’s free love, so…” I recommend reporting him to the club.
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> You don’t necessarily have to phrase it as a question specifically for staff—many respondents probably know something this basic.
> Also, this is something that could be resolved immediately by asking the staff directly, without posting it in the Q&A box.
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> You may be wondering, “If I’m asking in the Q&A box, why say that?”
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> The reason is that asking the staff would resolve the issue more quickly, so it would likely save you time compared with waiting for an answer here.
That said, here’s my answer.
If you contact the staff at the branch and tell them that the man didn’t give you your transportation allowance, they can get in touch with him.
However, if he insists that he did give it to you, it will be difficult for you to prove that you never received it, and the matter will simply become a he-said-she-said dispute.
If you’re going to have someone else collect it on your behalf, I think it would be better to say something yourself in the first place.
I’m genuinely curious what kind of situation would lead you to hit it off with a man who doesn’t even proactively give you your transportation allowance.
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>Would it be possible to ask the gentleman himself to cover at least the transportation costs through Universe?
As a last resort, Universe can contact the man, request the transportation money, and then pass it on to the woman.
However, this is strictly a last resort. As the staff likely explained during your interview, if the man forgets to give you the transportation money, the usual approach is to ask him yourself before you part ways.
The staff will probably ask you about the details, but if you explain the situation clearly, Universe can contact the man on your behalf.
That said, it’s unclear what you mean by saying that things progressed to a private arrangement.
For example, if you received an allowance of ¥70,000 but didn’t receive separate transportation money, and Universe contacts the man, he might say, “It was ¥60,000 plus ¥10,000 for transportation, so I did pay the transportation costs.”
If that happens, there’s nothing more Universe can do. The man is saying that he paid, and you did receive ¥70,000, even if there was a misunderstanding about how it was broken down.
So I think it would be best to clarify exactly what you mean by “transportation costs” this time and explain it carefully to the staff.
Incidentally, if you’re talking about reimbursement for the actual transportation costs from far away, there will often be an odd amount, so it would be harder for him to claim that it was included in the allowance. Still, I imagine it depends on the situation. In that case, I think more men would simply say, “Sorry, I forgot.”
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