When I first met my papa (a male supporter), I was the same age as his daughter or just one year apart, and I found that really unsettling.

When it comes to the topic of daughters, I think some women care and others don’t. I’m one of those who doesn’t. It’s not because I’m dating a grandpa who has a daughter in her late 40s—I felt the same way when I was in my 20s. So I can understand both men who realize that some women dislike it and men who don’t care either way. As for you, considering the physical compatibility and the allowance, I think you should continue seeing that papa. That said, calling you by a fake male name is incredibly insensitive and makes him a real jerk. If you tell him you dislike it and he still doesn’t stop, I think I’d start disliking him over that and want to end things myself. As for having your emotional needs met, maybe you should look to friends, a boyfriend, or other parts of your life—not another papa. I don’t care whether young women today are bad at romance and have trouble finding boyfriends, or whether people think you shouldn’t say things like that so casually. I assume you’re asking because, even if people tell you to break up right away, you probably can’t bring yourself to do it. Marika P.S. So you’re not interested in a normal romantic relationship. My apologies.

If you feel it’s necessary, I’m open to a counteroffer. > You stopped using LINE and switched to another messaging app to avoid this happening in the future. Even if it was meant to avoid the situation, that’s still far too harsh. There must be another papa (a male supporter) out there for you. > It seems his relationship with his wife and daughter is good. That’s something you should never say in front of either a club companion or a mistress. His long-term girlfriend believes that he turns to her for comfort because his wife mistreats him and doesn’t fulfill him emotionally, so you absolutely can’t tell her that you and your wife get along well and that you love your wife too. Generally speaking, the reason a man can maintain a good relationship with a mistress for many years is that he also has a good relationship with his wife. But most women don’t see it that way, which is why the mistress relationship can continue. It’s difficult for someone who doesn’t value his wife to keep genuinely valuing a mistress. Women who join a dating club usually aren’t doing so because they have nothing to worry about, so their circumstances are often the complete opposite of a papa’s comfortable family life. That’s why it’s taboo to talk only about the privileged environment you come from. It’s fine to mention isolated events or things that aren’t particularly fortunate. When I write things in the Q&A box, I include quite specific details because I know there’s no risk of being identified—that is, they’re things I haven’t told my club companions. P.S. My daughter says she doesn’t know Maetel… Apparently, it’s from an old anime…

You should just tell that man, “It really puts me off, so please don’t say things like that.” If he’s a good papa, he should reflect on it and change his behavior. I’ve been seeing the woman who talks about my daughter for years, though. Still, I’ll be a little more careful from now on—starting today. Aside from her inheritance, my daughter isn’t very happy. She’s not popular, she’s an otaku, and she has severe difficulty communicating with people. I’ve told her those facts too. Maybe she’s jealous because my daughter has everything. I think the beautiful papa-katsu girls are probably happier. The AI—is it Microsoft’s? P.S. I see. For now, I’ll stop bringing up my daughter unless I’m asked about her. With my support, I want to make these women just as happy as—or even happier than—my daughter. After all, I meet with and give money to the women from the club many times more often than I do to my daughter. Thank you—this was a very interesting question.

I’ve mentioned this a few times before, but apparently it’s genuinely painful when papas casually talk about their children around the same age as their partner—especially their daughters. Some of the people who answer questions here, like Kamihikōki and Seattle, often write about their daughters. Please never say those things in front of the women you’re seeing. Even if they look fine at the time, they’re definitely crying about it later. Stories about a daughter who isn’t doing well are even harder to hear. It highlights the unfairness of the affection they receive: your daughter can be struggling and still have no financial worries, while I have to work this hard just to receive an allowance. If the daughter were accomplished, they might be able to accept it as unavoidable, right? As for my advice to the questioner: unfortunately, I think you should end things. If you leave now, you can avoid having your heart die little by little. You’ll still be able to remember that papa as a good memory. Once the pain gradually builds, even the good memories you have now will be ruined. That papa probably won’t understand from hearing it once or twice. In fact, I’m sure Kamihikōki and Seattle have both read my repeated answers about this, yet they still keep writing about their daughters, don’t they? It’s not that either of them is insensitive. Ordinary men simply can’t see this as something that serious, so they can’t empathize with it. I’m a little unusual in that regard. Anyway, I really don’t think things will work out with that man anymore. I’ve had three or four women cry their eyes out in my arms after hearing other papas talk about their biological daughters. It really is cruel. All you papas out there, remember this well. Hearing about a daughter is a hundred times more painful than hearing about a wife. P.S. I wonder how AI would answer this. I’m kind of curious. P.S. 2 > Maybe you’re jealous because the daughter has everything. I think a beautiful papa-katsu girl is happier. No, that’s not it. Phrases like that are exactly what strike a nerve. It’s not about whether she’s happy. It’s about the unfairness in the affection being given. For example, imagine an older sister with a physical disability and a younger sister without one. If the parents gave toys and snacks only to the older sister while telling the younger one, “Your sister has it so hard. You’re happier than she is, so you need to put up with it,” the younger sister would feel sad in much the same way. I think the questioner could endure it if she truly felt she was receiving just as much affection as the biological daughter. The reason Seattle’s partner may be okay with it is probably that Seattle is divorced and doesn’t live with his daughter. The only possible consolation might be that his biological daughter can’t have an adult relationship with him the way the questioner does. They seem to have good physical chemistry. I’d like to know, for future reference, how the questioner feels about that. Does she feel any sense of superiority in that one respect—thinking, “His biological daughter can’t have sex with a papa she has such good physical chemistry with”? If you don’t mind, please add a follow-up, even if you don’t phrase it as a question. From the biological daughter’s perspective, the questioner is essentially a homewrecker, so I wonder whether there’s any pleasure in that. The women who cried in my arms never mentioned feeling that way, but their papas hadn’t had particularly good physical chemistry with them anyway. P.S. 3 > I want to use my allowance to make her just as happy as—or happier than—my daughter. I think that’s a wonderful phrase. A perfect 100 out of 100. That’s exactly what the questioner wants to hear, I think. If he said that, she could probably feel reassured no matter how much he talked about his daughter.

I don’t have any advice. You need to face yourself and work things out on your own.