Generally, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) refers to dating by mutual agreement while receiving financial support.
The nature and format of the relationship are decided by mutual agreement between the people involved in papa-katsu, and spending time together at karaoke is one example.
However, although the main purpose of a papa-katsu relationship is to receive financial support, it is also important to spend time together in a way that both people can enjoy. In other words, whether you can have a good time with the other person is also a major factor in determining how successful the arrangement will be.
If the other person told you, “You’re kind of boring,” it means they weren’t able to enjoy their time with you. That’s why, even in papa-katsu, it’s important to show your own appeal and make the other person’s time enjoyable.
That said, you don’t need to change who you are. What matters is making the most of your own strengths. If you enjoy doing things you like or are good at and can have a good time together, the other person will often enjoy themselves too.
It’s also helpful to value communication, listen to each other, and suggest plans that match the other person’s interests.
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I love karaoke, so I’ll go if I’m invited.
Were you invited to karaoke??
I’m not quite sure what was said before or after this, but if he says he wants to go to karaoke, I think you could just go along with him. (?)
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I’m not sure who brought up karaoke first, but here are some of its advantages:
- You can meet there every day, if you want.
- You can meet in a private room.
- You can arrange to meet in the room itself.
- Even if you can’t decide on a specific time, or one of you is running late, you can still meet up there.
- Since it’s a private space with no one else around, you can talk about anything.
- You can use the room for as long—or as short—a time as you like.
- You can eat there, and you can bring your own food and drinks.
So if you’re meeting every day or frequently, karaoke is definitely worth considering.
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There’s more to life than just papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), isn’t there?
I think having fun is really important—not only in work, but also in friendships, simply to live life as a person.
And as for “just karaoke,” I don’t think that really counts as papa-katsu.
Maybe this kind of world just isn’t a good fit for you.
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“You’re not a very interesting person,” they told me, and we ended things pretty quickly.
Maybe you just couldn’t keep the conversation going?
Hopefully next time, you’ll meet someone who can have a good back-and-forth with you, including conversation.
Well, these things happen sometimes. In a word, you probably just weren’t compatible.
There are people in this world you simply don’t click with for no particular reason, and others you feel comfortable with even in silence.
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papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) seems to refer to the activity of looking for a papa (a male supporter), or someone who might become one.
So I think evaluating someone over karaoke could be considered papa-katsu.
From the man’s perspective, an allowance-based relationship is something you do with someone you want to meet badly enough to give them an allowance. I think it’s perfectly normal to want that person to be interesting or fun. So I’d say it’s fair to consider that necessary.
Getting paid solely for sex, on the other hand, is what I’d call transactional sex.
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I don’t think there’s any fixed definition saying that doing certain things makes it papa-katsu, or not doing them means it isn’t. If anything, the deciding factor might be whether an allowance is involved.
I don’t think “not interesting” means you have to be funny or entertaining.
For example, whether you’re singing karaoke or doing something else, it’s not enough for you to enjoy yourself alone. Your papa needs to enjoy it too.
Maybe the appeal of papa-katsu for men comes from building up moments like wondering how things might develop, or thinking about what kind of conversation or date you’d like to have next.
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