I’ve had first-meeting dates with several Type B women, but we never discussed what kind of relationship we wanted going forward. We simply had a pleasant conversation, and that was it for the first meeting.
They were all women I’d like to see again, and they also responded very positively, saying they’d definitely like to meet again. However, judging from their profiles, they all seem wary of men who immediately try to move things toward an adult relationship (intimate) or who come on too strong, so I’m not sure how to proceed.
I’m not confident I can suppress my desire for an adult relationship (intimate) on the second date, but at the same time, I don’t want to put them off, and I want to value this connection.
I’d appreciate advice from both men’s and women’s perspectives.
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The key is not to come across as overly eager.
With any woman, I talk from the very first date about the possibility of an adult relationship (intimate).
Since I’m not the type to fall seriously in love, I explain that I want to enjoy an adult relationship like a sport—keeping things smooth and smart.
For example, I’ll bring up early on that, if we were to have an adult relationship, this is roughly the allowance I have in mind.
At the same time, I set a personal cutoff: if there’s no progress after having dinner twice with a B-rated woman, I move on.
Also, women rated A—or B women who are better than some A women—aren’t necessarily committed to dinner only (no intimacy). Sometimes they simply have other reasons for not wanting an adult relationship.
The trick is to show the composure of a gentleman while drawing out her thoughts on adult relationships in various ways. That’s how things start to develop.
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You need to ask about an adult relationship (intimate) on LINE by the time you meet for the second time at the latest. In other words, now.
If they say they don’t know the terms of the arrangement or which meeting it would be, it’s almost certainly dinner only (no intimacy). If you’re having fun, dinner only is fine too—that’s for you to decide.
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It all comes down to what kind of relationship the person asking the question is looking for.
With B-type arrangements, both men and women vary widely.
Among B-type women, there are those who:
- Go to a hotel on the very first day
- Say on the first day that they’re open to an adult relationship from the second date onward (and want an allowance for the next date and every date after that)
- Bring up an adult relationship around the fourth or fifth meeting, after getting to know each other (but don’t want it every time they meet)
- Make it clear from the first day that they’re practically A-type
It’s important to figure out which type someone is early on during the first meeting.
The same goes for men. Some prioritize an adult relationship and go to a hotel every time they meet, while others would rather avoid that.
With a B-type arrangement, you can look for someone whose preferred relationship style matches your own. When you’re compatible in that respect, you’re likely to have a much more satisfying relationship.
That should make it possible to have the kind of club relationship you’re looking for.
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I can tell you’re being considerate of the Type B woman, and you seem like a genuinely wonderful man…! (lol)
Why not simply tell her, “I’d eventually like to deepen our relationship,” and “I don’t want to scare you off—I really value this connection”?
I’m also dealing with someone whose relationship with me is kind of left hanging in limbo, so I’m a little unsure what to do myself (lol). Let’s both do our best! You’ve got this!
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