Does fully indulging my own sexual desire during sex with my papa (a male supporter) make it obvious that I’m falling for him??
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I’m the female member who previously asked about “reasons for fading out on a papa.” Thank you to everyone who answered.
After interpreting your responses in my own way, I ended up with another question.
- If he realizes I’m falling for him, he might cut me off.
- I should genuinely enjoy the time we spend together and the sex, without overthinking things.
But isn’t it incredibly difficult to truly enjoy sex while also making sure he doesn’t realize you’re falling for him?
Because when I like someone, that “I like you” inevitably leaks out through sex.
On the other hand, although I can enjoy the physical pleasure of sex with a papa I’m not in love with, the amount I get wet is completely different.
As Dai-san pointed out, when you’ve fallen for someone, your body’s reactions during sex improve—or rather, you become noticeably more uninhibited. Not to mention how quickly and how much you get wet; your vaginal contractions become stronger, you want to kiss him a lot, straddle him, do it from behind, standing up… If I listed everything, there’d be no end to it. My desires just keep going.
But there’s also the age gap, so I don’t want to push him too hard. It’s less that I want him to lavish me with affection or that I want to lavish him with affection, and more that I simply want to be very affectionate and intimate together.
Still, if I openly indulge my desires during sex or get too proactive about being affectionate, won’t my papa suddenly become creeped out, thinking, “Could this female member actually be seriously in love with me?”—the very danger everyone warned me about?
(At the end of the day, there’s no definitive answer because we can’t know what someone else is thinking. I’d just like you to consider the possibilities, perhaps by imagining yourselves in my position.)
To keep him from realizing I like him, should I suppress my own desires and tailor the sex to what my papa wants?
Or is it more like:
It’s okay if my feelings come across through sex, but not through my everyday words, actions, or LINE messages?
Or perhaps, instead of writing such a long post and worrying about it—
Whether I do something or don’t do something, if it’s going to end, it’s going to end!
Would it be better for my mental health to let go of my worries and enjoy myself without holding back…? (I’m sorry for asking a question that completely undermines the whole point of asking.)
P.S.
Taro-san’s hormones
In my everyday life—when I’m working, doing housework, cooking, or simply going about my day—I don’t really feel my own “femininity” very strongly.
When I make a mistake at work and feel depressed, I might think, “Ah, here come the negative emotions. I’m really experiencing being human,” but that’s about it.
On the other hand, when I think about someone I like, remember pleasurable sex, or have sex with someone I like in my imagination, I get wet and feel sensual and lustful. That’s when I strongly feel the “woman” inside me.
This reaction happens on the day before I’m scheduled to meet the papa mentioned in my question above.
So, while I do love yakiniku-style offal, that’s not what I mean this time.
Sorry for the serious answer—it’s not very entertaining.
At the same time, I don’t want to use commonplace expressions like “uterus” or “genitals” (this is just my painfully chuuni-esque preference born of self-indulgence).
And somehow, the sensation feels a little different.
Rather than a physical part of my body throbbing in a visibly tangible way, it’s closer to the feeling I described above—like “the woman’s blood inside me is stirring”—so I chose the term “female hormones.”
Even I’m horrified by how long this post is.
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I’m single, so the arrangements that last—six years and four years—are with people who make me feel they’re genuinely into me and openly show their desire.
It doesn’t last when their feelings are too detached.
As for the opinions of married people, please see the other answers.
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It sounds like things have gotten a bit tangled with Mac-san, so I’ll comment here, before things reached that point.
Sometimes you can feel that you like someone through sex, and there’s nothing wrong with that. In those moments, it can feel like both people are giving it everything they’ve got, throwing themselves fully into it. There are women who are like that even with a frequency of about once a month, and surprisingly, those relationships can last quite a long time. That’s what I was talking about in my previous answer.
You’re probably the person facing them who understands best how they feel. So why ask something like that? Maybe each time, your understanding deepens and you adjust accordingly. Maybe you respond to what the other person wants in each moment. Or maybe you can both sense differences as subtle as 1 mm in depth, 1 degree in angle, or 0.1 seconds in timing. I think the density of that nonverbal communication is on an entirely different level.
If the question is whether someone can seem somewhat distant at other times, yet reveal their true feelings only in those moments, then my answer is yes. That’s what I believe, and I’ve had relationships with women that lasted several years on that basis. I don’t feel the need to prove anything beyond that.
Mac-san basically takes a top-down position. I don’t mean that he looks down on or despises people. I think he has a warm heart, as suggested by phrases like “my paternal instincts are kicking in” and “a desire to protect.” But he is still in the superior position. That’s why he can create the order of the world like a god and build a stable environment. On the other hand, a god’s values are absolute, so if you oppose them, the reaction becomes, “What’s your problem?” It’s like religion: you either convert or you don’t. If you think he’s wonderful, you can snuggle up to him; if not, you can quietly walk away. Picking a fight or trying to debate him is a foolish strategy. Judging from the content of your series of questions, you’re probably fairly mature in age. If so, you should exercise even more common sense.
As an aside, unlike Mac-san, I mess around with younger women—probably around the same age range as his partners—on a very basic, low-level footing. The difference is that I never do that sort of thing with women close to my own age, so the two are completely separate. That means no matter how old I get, I can keep messing around with younger women on the same level. I have no intention of building any kind of order, and I couldn’t build one even if I tried. That said, as I gain more experience, I do start to develop a sense of “it’ll probably go something like this.” But that often backfires, so lately I’ve been reminding myself to stay fresh（笑）. Do you understand? There are all kinds of people out there. I wonder which type your partner is.
Anyway, my answer to your question remains the same as in my previous response.
Taro
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Our feelings seem to differ, so I can’t really understand where you’re coming from.
Wouldn’t he only realize how much you like him if you told him in words that you like him and that your body reacts so strongly to him?
Does he know what kind of sex you have with other people and how much your body responds? If he does, that might help him realize your feelings. But since his only point of comparison is how your body responds during sex with him, I feel he simply hasn’t noticed because he can’t compare it with anyone else.
That’s just my personal opinion.
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You mean the person who asked this question, right?
I don’t think he’ll find out. The reason is that he has nothing to compare your reactions to when you’re having sex with a man you’re not in love with.
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They won’t notice.
The reason is that even if a man is completely driven by lust and enjoying himself to the fullest, that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s in love with the woman.
I thought women felt the same way, but maybe that’s not the case?
I understood what you meant by female hormones stirring. It’s probably not just the uterus—your whole body, especially your brain, must be tingling.
When I fall for a woman, it feels less like my male hormones are acting up and more like my paternal instincts are kicking in. I feel protective. I want to watch over her. I want to serve her as her knight.
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