Could you share some reasons why male members stop seeing a woman after going on several dates with her, including an adult relationship (intimate)?

So cute! If she were Fuu’s monthly arrangement, I’d be absolutely thrilled. Personally, most of my relationships end because I get tired of the adult relationship, or because a woman who’s more into that kind of relationship comes along. The most important thing is probably your intimate compatibility. Pay close attention to your papa, feel him out, and figure out what kinds of things or play he likes and what kind of atmosphere he prefers. Get a good sense of that and do your best to make it happen for him. Also, there’s no point in worrying about an unseen future—you never know what will happen. It’s better to enjoy every moment you get to spend together.

Once you’ve been seeing each other for more than six months, the relationship will probably start to become long-term. Until then, it’s still a trial period, so don’t let your guard down. Your feelings of affection especially come through when you’re being intimate. I mean, your body reacts when you’re together like that, doesn’t it? You probably can’t hide it, so I’m sure the man you’re seeing is happy about it too. However, if you become too emotionally invested, it increases the risk of a breakup. Men who use dating clubs—especially good papas—usually want to enjoy themselves in a smooth, uncomplicated way. Even more so if the man you’re seeing is married. Try to keep your feelings under control and continue enjoying a good relationship with him.

If I were shown this question as-is, I’d definitely bump you up from third place to second and meet you twice a month.

> She’s elegant-looking, well-read, and interesting to talk to. Since sex with her is also enjoyable, he’s probably a popular man, which makes me worry even more that she’ll get bored with me soon if things continue this way. ↑ I wondered, “Is she talking about me?” But then I saw: > We currently meet once a month. ↑ Ah! Then it’s not me after all, I thought right away（笑） Based on my five-year relationship with one woman, I’ll offer you a few hints. First, when you meet him, casually let him know that he’s your type. Even if he isn’t handsome now, flatter him a little by saying, “You must have been handsome when you were younger!” Also, depending on the man, try to exchange at least one message each day. If daily contact isn’t possible, make sure you still check in from time to time. That alone should be enough. No matter how beautiful a woman is, after meeting three times, the special feeling starts to fade. And in a dating club, beautiful women keep joining one after another. So I think it’s important to make it clear that you want him to keep his attention on you: “Keep looking at me!” Not communicating every day makes it easier for the relationship to end, so it’s important to keep him connected by saying, “Don’t end things with me!”（笑）

The expression “my female hormones are throbbing” is interesting. You often hear people say that their genitals or uterus are throbbing, but hormones? I wonder if they meant it in the Osaka barbecue sense of “hormone”—something like kobukuro, perhaps… Incidentally, cow kobukuro is apparently very tough, so the kobukuro served at yakiniku restaurants is actually pig uterus. I just looked it up and learned that. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to discover something new. Anyway, getting to the main point: as Paper Airplane says, meeting once a month probably means there isn’t a particularly strong emotional investment. So rather than trying to score points, I think a strategy focused on minimizing lost points is more effective. Being overly intense or contacting her too frequently can be a turnoff. Exchanging a few casual LINE messages between meetings is a good strategy, but it’s off-putting if your motives are too obvious, or if your replies are so uninteresting that it seems like you’re responding out of sheer habit. On the other hand, some women never contact you first and always wait for the man to reach out. They can seem almost too detached, though, which also means you can cut things off cleanly when the time comes. This may sound difficult, but since once a month isn’t that frequent, even if there are some areas where you don’t quite click, the relationship can surprisingly last a long time as long as there are enough good points. I think the important thing is to establish a pattern that makes both of you feel comfortable. I’ve had women who exchanged one round of LINE messages with me every day. I’ve also had women who never contacted me, but always replied whenever I reached out. There isn’t one fixed pattern on the man’s side either. Feel things out and find what works for both of you. When you meet, it’s important to have a good time. I think you should simply follow your feelings and act naturally on the fact that you enjoy being with her, without overthinking things. The same goes for intimacy. Being able to share deep intimacy without either person feeling guarded is a major plus. That said, there’s no guarantee it will continue forever. You may think, “This could be the end,” and then before you know it, the relationship has continued for several years. I think that’s a fairly common pattern. I hope things work out well and continue smoothly for you too. Taro

I think the key is not making him think, “She’s serious about me—this is getting dangerous!” If he’s attractive enough to draw you in that much, he could easily find an affair partner outside the club. The fact that he deliberately chose a dating club instead means he knows that a little affair can quickly turn into a wildfire. He’s a sensible man. It’s fine to let him know you like him, but you should clearly and repeatedly say things that will reassure him, such as, “I don’t want to get married.” Also, since he’s married, be extremely careful not to let his wife find out. Men don’t notice things like a lingering scent, after all. The reason is that if it looks like his wife might find out, there’s a good chance he’ll cut you off. Married men may seem cool, but ultimately, he’s just a chicken who’s afraid of an affair and has run to a dating arrangement instead. You only want him because he belongs to someone else. The best thing would be to wake up.

Women I see about once a month are roughly third-string in terms of how much I like them. (A man who can only go on dates once a month probably wouldn’t bother paying to join a club in the first place. Most men are seeing someone at least once or twice a week, and some even date every day or more…) Since we don’t meet often, I don’t specifically cut things off unless something happens. If she stops contacting me, we simply stop meeting and communicating. Whether it ends or not doesn’t really matter. There’s no need to formally break things off, and seeing each other occasionally prevents things from becoming stale, so it can continue that way. Of course, if I don’t hear from her for two months or more, I naturally lose interest in meeting her.