Is it normal to go to a hotel with your papa (a male supporter) almost every time we meet?
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When I was younger, I only had platonic relationships, so I’m not used to this kind of arrangement and was wondering what everyone else does.
Also, is it normal to stay at a love hotel on regular occasions, even if we use a luxury hotel for our first meeting or special days? I’m not really comfortable with the atmosphere of love hotels, and honestly, I’d prefer a business hotel—even if it’s cheap.
I also have a lot of other concerns. For example, if we meet once a week and are intimate every time, wouldn’t he get bored with me sooner?
I’d really appreciate hearing about everyone’s experiences.
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Just as Adventure Merchant wrote:
With the girl I see frequently,
> “It feels strange for every meeting to involve sex.”
> These days, I’d say we meet four times and have sex once.
We meet two or three times a week, with an adult relationship (intimate) once or twice a month. Our compatibility in that regard is among the best I’ve ever experienced—probably in my top two or three—so I’m very satisfied. Even just spending time together without intimacy is highly satisfying.
With girls I see only about once a month or occasionally, there’s usually an adult relationship (intimate) whenever we meet. Compared with my favorites, I may have very little desire to continue seeing them.
I suppose if it’s an adult relationship (intimate) every time, that means they don’t like you enough to want to meet even just for dinner.
I rarely use city hotels; I mostly go to love hotels.
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I see my papa every week, but we have an adult relationship (intimate) about once a month. The rest of the time, we go on dates that feel like spending time with a regular boyfriend.
For our intimate dates, we use a city hotel.
Since it’s a monthly arrangement, we never set a specific number of times—it just naturally worked out that way.
Once your relationship has continued for a while, why not gradually let your own wishes be known as well?
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Since you met through a dating club, I think it’s generally assumed that “meeting up” means going to a hotel.
In my case, even when we had already set a date, there were many times when the woman happened to be on her period and we ended up postponing the meeting.
That was only because those relationships were basically sex-only arrangements, and I wasn’t seriously dating them, though…
When I’ve chosen someone as my primary partner, I don’t expect sex every time we meet. We’re basically a regular couple, so expecting sex every time would actually feel a little strange.
These days, I’d say we have sex about once every four meetings.
Of course, it’s not easy to find someone you genuinely feel that way about.
So, as a general rule, I suppose that when you meet someone through a dating club, “meeting up” usually does mean having sex.
As for whether it’s a love hotel or a business hotel, everyone has their preferences, so why not just be honest with your partner about what you prefer?
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From the male side, I assume women want to receive as much allowance as possible for each date.
That naturally makes an adult relationship (intimate) feel necessary.
In my experience, I generally avoid both business hotels and love hotels.
However, lately it’s been difficult to book hotels because of the nationwide travel support program, so I sometimes end up going to a love hotel.
Also, as you pointed out, seeing each other once a week seems like it would get boring, so I have a monthly arrangement.
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What feels natural varies from person to person.
In the past, it was probably considered natural to remain a virgin until marriage. Go back even further, and there were times when being visited for a sexual encounter was considered natural.
If you feel uncomfortable with something, try telling the other person how you feel. In some cases, discussing the difference between your feelings and theirs can help resolve it.
That said, these days, people seem to have less resistance to going to a hotel than they did in the past.
Apparently, during the early days of telephone dating clubs, it was common for men and women to go to hotels without any money changing hands.
Akira Narita, the author of *Telephone Dating Club Diary*, wrote about his experiences going to hotels with various women without paying them.
What is considered natural changes with the times, and regardless of the era, it’s perfectly normal for people to have different views.
What matters is whether you can have an arrangement you genuinely feel comfortable with. Please act in a way you won’t regret.
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I only see her twice a month, but staying at a hotel is part of the arrangement.
I used to ask her every time if she really wanted to, and she said she didn’t mind, so unless something special comes up, we just continue as usual.
And now, four years have passed with neither of us getting tired of it. There’s no sign of us parting ways—in fact, we’ve become even closer.
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If it’s an allowance-based arrangement, I think going to a hotel every time is only natural.
If you’re not comfortable with love hotels, I think you should just say so.
Personally, I feel like things are actually closer to ending once you stop having sex.
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On my dates with my papa (male supporter), going to a hotel every time feels natural because that’s what both of us want.
I think it’s a good idea to let him know your hotel preferences to some extent.
Marika
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To put it bluntly, in my case:
As I’ve mentioned in my columns, I want a sex-centered relationship with a young, attractive woman, so I only make C-type offers from the start. An adult relationship is therefore a must on our dates.
I feel like I’d get bored if we did it once a week, so I prefer once a month.
Since my partners also want their full allowance, those who prefer an adult relationship every time naturally end up becoming monthly arrangements.
At a cheap business hotel, there’s a chance people in the rooms above, below, and next door could hear everything. If they’re going to hear us anyway, I imagine a love hotel would feel less embarrassing（笑）
For example, why not suggest something like one adult relationship and one dinner-only date per month to your papa?
Doing it every week also sounds difficult when you’re on your period.
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