Even though I’m clearly more attractive now, I get approached less than I used to.

You probably have the kind of face women tend to like right now. If you enjoy looking at yourself in the mirror, you won’t regret it. Just be careful not to overdo it. You only need to find one or two good people each.

Stop trying to project that “beautiful” aura and just smile naturally. You probably aren’t smiling in your Universe profile photos either, are you? If you think you are, you’re probably not smiling enough. Even a stern-looking face becomes softer when you smile. You may personally like how pretty you look with a composed expression, but if you want more offers, why not smile? If the number of offers is your measure of self-satisfaction, then you should do that to keep getting them. That said, even with so many offers, if you still can’t find a papa (a male supporter) like Aya’s, then there’s probably an issue besides your looks. Marika

I like that sort of thing. I think she’s better than before, actually. That’s my type—beautiful women who are kind of a letdown. You’re right in my strike zone. Welcome.

Between a stunning, elegant beauty and a cute, approachable beauty, it’s sometimes the elegant one who gets overlooked. That’s because men may find her intimidating and have a harder time approaching her. If she also gives off a somewhat stern impression, I think men will feel even more hesitant to make a move. A woman’s charm lies in her warmth and friendliness. Why not aim for that appealing contrast—looking a little intimidating at first, but being easy to talk to once someone gets to know you?

I can honestly see how becoming more attractive could actually make someone less popular. Just speaking from my own experience, when I meet someone extremely beautiful, it’s pretty easy to casually say, “You’re gorgeous,” without any ulterior motive. But when I start thinking about pursuing a relationship, I hesitate. First, I think, “She’s that beautiful, so she must have a lot of competition,” and I start wondering, “Would someone like her really be a good match for me?” I’m in my late 40s, and although I do make an effort to look clean and well-groomed, I end up analyzing myself and thinking, “We wouldn’t be balanced looks-wise.” I don’t think a relationship lasts unless the two people are reasonably well matched. So then I start thinking, “If I were to balance things out with her... I’d have no choice but to make up the difference financially.” That’s why, when I spot an exceptionally beautiful woman at a dating club, my first thought is, “She’s probably going to be expensive!” So I intentionally left women who were clearly beautiful to everyone out of the running when considering whom to approach. The women I’ve chosen have been those who are: “Exactly my type looks-wise, but not so universally beautiful or cute that every man would say so.” I don’t think being beautiful automatically means being popular. (Though “beautiful = model” might work... That turned into a bit of a pun, haha.)

I’m not entirely sure, but I think you’re probably right in your own analysis. Who knows, though. It’s not so much that she looks intimidating; when someone looks too perfectly put together, like they’re saying, “Bring it on!” it can actually make it harder to make a move. The sweet spot that tends to be most popular is looking great while still having a slight opening or vulnerability. Maybe she was closer to that before her surgery. If you’re happy with how you look after surgery, then I think it was the right decision. The only thing left is figuring out how to regain your balance in this new situation. One thing I found amusing in your question was the part about slurping ramen at a ramen shop and going to a public bath. If you care that much about beauty, I almost want to say, “Then don’t eat ramen!” And I love that instead of writing something like “I got perfectly refreshed in the sauna,” you casually wrote that you were “soaking in a bath at a public bathhouse.” That kind of thing creates a contrast with your appearance, and if you mentioned it in your profile or comments, it might attract offers from people who find that intriguing. If you seriously try to build up followers on social media, you’ll realize that what you personally think is good and what the public wants are often quite different. In a sense, it’s usually people who don’t really understand the essence of things who end up setting the trend. You might get results by abandoning yourself and catering to that, but then you’d be bored—and there’s also the dilemma that once you start pandering, people may get tired of you. I think the important thing is to stay stubbornly true to your own personal preferences while figuring out how to make them acceptable to others. That was Taro’s answer, still posting away while stubbornly clinging to his cheerful poop icon.

Being beautiful doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be popular. I think you also need a natural look and a pleasant personality. Besides, when women call another woman “beautiful” or “cute” (aside from exceptions like models or idols), it’s not reliable at all. If you changed your face to match your own idea of what’s cute, you’d probably have a hard time appealing to men. When women call their friends “cute,” they’re almost never actually cute. (If someone really is cute, there’s no need to say it. The exceptions are models and idols—both they and their friends are all cute.) And men also tend to avoid women who look like they’ve had plastic surgery, if possible. You really didn’t need to go that far to improve your appearance. Because— > I was Platinum. I had offers from just under 30 people. That’s already the highest tier. I think you were probably the most ideal type.