You often hear about men catching serious feelings, but do women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) ever genuinely fall in love with their papa (a male supporter)?
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They all treat me with a smile, but they tend to be a little detached and keep their distance. There probably aren’t any girls who are truly willing to make an effort for me, are there?
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> There really aren’t any girls who are a little reserved, keep some distance, and genuinely make an effort, are there?
Are you saying you want to get married?
You don’t want to get married, but you do want her to fall genuinely in love with you—is that it?
If so, I honestly don’t understand what you mean.
Also, it’s unclear what exactly you expect her to make an effort toward.
Why not start by making an effort yourself?
If you’re not willing to put in any effort but expect the other person to do so, that’s only going to work if you’re exceptionally attractive.
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I’m not genuinely in love, but I really adore my papa (male supporter)!
So there may be women who do develop genuine feelings. Since it’s a relationship between two people, your feelings can gradually grow over time—that’s how I see it.
If you truly like someone, rather than expecting them to make an effort for you, you’d think about what you can do for them.
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As long as you keep expecting things from them, that distance will never close.
For it to close, they need to see you as someone they need—not just someone who gives an allowance.
The issue is simply that your partner doesn’t feel that way about you.
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If you’re asking whether a woman can genuinely fall in love, the answer is that it’s not impossible—women are human too.
That said, given the age difference and the fact that you met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I think it would be a rare case.
But since your goals are different, you’d be better off looking for a partner through a marriage agency or a dating app for people seeking marriage.
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You’re pretty spoiled, aren’t you?
If he’s making an effort, doesn’t that make you feel fond of him? Isn’t that good enough?
How many years apart are you?
Just how handsome and mature is he?
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I’m not really sure what qualifies as “gachi-koi” either, but as an arrangement continues, you do become good friends.
We’re definitely closer now than when we first started seeing each other（笑）
I think everyone wants different things from an arrangement, but you’re probably better off considering anything over 60% a success. You’re unlikely to find something that meets 100% of your expectations.
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What exactly counts as genuinely falling in love?
Whether she’s your girlfriend or your wife, you still need to maintain a healthy distance.
You normally give your girlfriend or wife gifts and money too, right?
The allowance in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is also money filled with gratitude. PJ girls also go on dates with a genuine sense of appreciation and enjoyment, don’t they?
When two people face each other, I think the essence is the same, even if the form is different.
It’s me.
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I tend to fall genuinely in love, so if you reach out to around 300 women, I think you’ll find at least one.
Beyond that, I think it comes down to how well you can treat and value women.
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