From a woman’s perspective, is there really that much difference between men in their 40s and 50s?
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When talking about dating clubs, most women say that 50 is still just about acceptable, but the man already feels like an old guy—and men nearing 60 are completely out of the question.
Do appearance and the way you think noticeably change once you’re over 50? I’d like to know for future reference.
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Potassium here, a female member.
Thinking you’re the only one who’s still young is exactly the kind of cringe behavior that makes people see you as an old man or old woman.
To a high schooler, even someone in their 20s is an old man or old woman. And once you’re in your 20s, people in their 30s seem old too.
Personally, I do want to feel young forever, at least in my heart—but only when I’m by myself. I’d love to feel like an elementary schooler forever.
Though I guess that’s pretty cringe, lol.
Just my personal opinion.
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How much of an “old man” someone looks ultimately depends on the individual.
More importantly, many women set the upper age limit for someone they can date with their own father’s age in mind.
I’m in my 40s too, but I don’t think my outlook will change all that much after I turn 50.
My appearance has naturally declined compared with when I was younger, but I don’t try too hard to look young.
These days, I’ve started living with my health ten or twenty years from now in mind.
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What?! I’m in my late thirties, and I’m fully aware that I’m an old guy. When I was in my early twenties, I thought anyone in their early thirties was an old man.
But honestly, isn’t life more fun once you become an old guy? I’m having more fun now, anyway. I love it when my juniors call me an old man, a baldy, or an ugly baldy.
Stuff like “Baldy-chu!” and my ridiculously stupid, goofy Pikachu impression are finally starting to feel natural.
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Your appearance definitely changes.
In your 40s, you may have hardly any gray hair, but once you reach your 50s, it starts becoming much more noticeable. By your 60s, the gray is quite obvious, and even the wrinkles you didn’t pay much attention to before become clearly visible (lol).
The women I date tell me, “You’ve still got it!” They’re good at flattering me—just like I am—but part of me still wonders, “Really?” and hopes that it’s true (lol).
It’s complicated!
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Once you’re past 50, you need to recognize that you’re basically a human fossil—a living fossil.
And when you’re in your 40s, you only have a few years left… You can’t avoid becoming aware of death forever.
On the other hand, once you’ve reached the halfway point in life, you no longer have to keep working or living for the sake of your future. You can start living in the moment, doing everything for your own enjoyment.
I think the difference comes down to whether you can share that余裕 with someone else…
In other words, whether you’re of use to the other person—not just in terms of the allowance…
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I think it depends much more on the individual than on whether they’re in their 40s or 50s.
There are plenty of attractive actors in their 50s. If someone like that were their papa (a male supporter), even younger women would be happy to date him.
On the other hand, even a man in his 30s or 40s might be someone nobody wants to date if he lacks basic cleanliness or treats them badly.
So I’m not sure it’s fair to lump everyone together based on age alone. There are definitely cool, attractive men over 50!
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Everyone’s looks and abilities decline with age.
Times are constantly changing too, so unless our attitudes and behavior evolve faster than society does, people will quickly start saying, “That’s so outdated!”
It’s not your actual age that matters, but how much effort you make and how well you adapt. You may not be able to become younger, but there are countless ways to keep from looking or seeming your age.
So even if someone is in their 30s, it’s entirely possible for them to seem more like an old man than someone in their 60s.
It’s me.
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Now you’re asking based on gender alone, without even specifying an age range?
You’re more than twice the age of a 20-year-old woman, and this is what you’re asking?
Everyone has different sensibilities. Are you stupid? Don’t you have any men in their 50s around you?
Besides, I think it’s important even for men in their 40s to recognize that they’re middle-aged. The person you’re seeing calling men in their 50s “old men” is probably just being considerate of you.
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