This is about a man I met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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The first time we met, we had agreed from the start on an adult relationship (intimate). He was very gentlemanly and paid me the agreed allowance in full.
When we met a second time, he was just as kind and considerate. Of course, we had an adult relationship (intimate), so I expected to receive my allowance, but he said, “I don’t have enough cash on me today, so I’ll give it to you next time,” and only paid me half the amount we had originally agreed on.
If he didn’t have enough money from the beginning, I wish he had discussed it with me beforehand. I trusted him because he seemed so gentlemanly, so I was extremely shocked.
When I explained how I felt via LINE, he replied, “I’m pretty sure I told you it would be next time,” followed by, “I understand why you’d be upset if I put myself in your position as a woman. I’m sorry.”
We had plans to meet for a third time, but he messaged me saying something had come up. I replied, “I understand. Thank you for letting me know.” After that, he sent me a single message saying “bye” and blocked me.
I know his personal information, but I have no intention of exposing him over something like this. Still, I’m so angry I can hardly stand it.
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂30s👑Member of another dating club
If he told you he didn’t have any money on him today, you should assume there won’t be a third meeting.
You had already agreed to meet a second time, and then he says he has no money? That’s a scam.
He may have been a papa you met through an app…
Please report him to the staff so there won’t be any more victims.
☆Even someone from Flag Maker can get shaken down, huh? You seemed like such a careful, sensible person.
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Unfortunately, this sounds like a fairly common situation at dating clubs.
At Universe Club, he’d be flagged as a papa (a male supporter) to watch out for based on feedback from women, but I wonder how other dating clubs handle it.
Anyway, let’s move on. I hope you receive plenty of offers and can choose an ideal papa (a male supporter) from among them.
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Hmm… the most productive thing is probably to treat it like getting into an accident, cut your losses, and move on.
Even if you explain the facts to someone like that, it probably won’t get through to them—you’ll only end up stressed.
And make sure to report him to the dating club’s management as well.
They may not handle it as perfectly as Universe Club would, though…
—It’s me
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I understand that you probably just need somewhere to vent.
But all you can do is accept that that’s the kind of man he was and move on.
If you exposed his personal information, you’d be committing a crime yourself, so exercising restraint was the wise choice.
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You were being targeted from the very beginning.
You should report him to the club to prevent anyone else from becoming a victim.
Even if it’s technically free-form dating, people like that shouldn’t be allowed to remain members!
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Ah, you just brought back a bad memory.
This happened one winter. For some reason, she showed up to our date wearing very light clothing and looked freezing. We had a little time before dinner, so I suddenly said, “You look really cold. Want to buy a coat?” She was delighted and said, “There’s a down jacket I want!”
She took me to a store, where the price of the jacket she showed me was clearly over my budget. I casually thought, “Well, whatever. I’ll subtract the excess from this time’s allowance and add it to the next one,” and bought it for her.
Then, when I gave her the allowance, I told her, “I’ll add the remaining amount to next time’s allowance.” She replied, “I’d like you to keep things like that properly separate.”
I was screaming internally, “Well, that’s because you suddenly made me buy such an expensive down jacket!!” But all I said was, “I’m sorry.”
Later, I apologized by saying, “I’m sorry about last time,” and gave her the extra money. Somehow, though, I felt like I’d been shaken down. lol
Looking back, I guess it’s a good memory now.
Sorry for the digression. In this case, the questioner is absolutely justified in being angry. That man broke his promise. I paid properly.
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This doesn’t really seem like a question, so I guess this isn’t exactly an answer either…
There really are some awful people out there. These days, you can withdraw money from a convenience store ATM 24/7, so I don’t think you should believe someone who says they don’t have any cash on hand.
And since it would be difficult to continue seeing someone so dishonest, let’s look at it as a good thing that you found out early.
You may be incredibly angry and frustrated, but there’s really nothing you can do, right? Eat something delicious, get a good night’s sleep, and try to forget about it.
You wrote, “I know their personal information, so I’m not going to expose them…” But if you truly felt that way, I don’t think you would have included that sentence.
Maybe you want someone to tell you, “If you’re really concerned about getting your second allowance, why not go to their home or workplace?” But personally, I’d think, “I don’t want anything more to do with them.”
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