I was disappointed reading the answers to the question below. What does it mean to compare this to an ordinary job when a woman is offering her body to a club gentleman she isn’t even dating, while providing him with a satisfying experience?
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Are there really many male members who, like the man in the question and some of the respondents, try to make comparisons without even understanding a woman’s values?
I had recently been thinking about re-registering with the club, but the thought that there may be many male members who think that way has made me hesitate a little.
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I also think it would be better not to re-register at this point.
With the way you currently view things, I don’t think you’ll enjoy using a dating club at all. It may be best to reconsider your approach before registering again.
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Exactly. It’s not just some of the male members—it’s all of them. That’s right, this is such a scary place that you’re better off staying away for your own safety.
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Youth, beauty, and being a woman are all just accidents of birth—not the result of your own hard work or diligence. So please don’t force the value of those things on others.
If I were a man, I probably wouldn’t be so desperate for female company that I’d have to put up with a woman like you unwillingly.
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Some women see it as offering their body to an older man and providing him with a satisfying experience, while some men want and expect exactly that.
On the other hand, there are both women and men who dislike that kind of arrangement.
If you can avoid papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), there’s no need to do it. Don’t push yourself.
I believe the original idea is that, because the woman had an enjoyable time—and because making her happy makes him happy—the man gives her an allowance out of genuine gratitude. That’s the opposite of how the person asking the question seems to view it.
Getting paid for satisfying a man is an old-fashioned, sex-work-oriented way of thinking.
Wouldn’t the more modern papa-katsu mindset be that the woman enjoys herself and receives money too?
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Not just in this kind of arrangement—people naturally tend to overestimate the value of what they have compared with its market value. Conversely, it’s human nature to want to undervalue what others have.
So I suppose it’s understandable that some men may undervalue young women.
But if you have qualities that make you valuable beyond things like youth or beauty, you can gradually raise their initial low assessment of you.
Choose your partners carefully, communicate well, and don’t forget to enrich your inner self. Good luck with your papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I have absolutely no interest in women who re-register after leaving.
In my opinion, with dating clubs, you can leave with your head held high—but coming back is the same as failing and repeating a year. If you’re going to re-enroll, at least be more humble and keep a low profile. That’s my personal take.
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Everyone has different values, and I don’t think it’s fundamentally possible to truly understand someone else’s values. You’re angry because you can’t understand his values either, right?
Most people don’t judge the other person’s values; they date people whose values they can reconcile with their own. I have no idea whether people with a particular set of values are common or rare, and that really isn’t the issue.
If you’re so quick to jump to conclusions and get angry, I think you’d be better off not registering again—it’ll be less stressful for you.
In short: feel disappointed all by yourself.
Also, I believe a dating club is a place to date and spend time with someone.
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