A papa (a male supporter) keeps asking me to give him my bank account details so he can transfer my allowance.

First of all, you should make sure your tax matters are properly taken care of. As for your question, as the other respondents have said, the cash card is for your papa’s account, so I don’t think it would reveal your real name. However, unless you’ve built a considerable level of trust, you’d be holding someone else’s bank card. You should think about what could happen to you if that papa were to betray you, even in some unexpected way. If you were his biological child, that might be one thing, but you’re a complete stranger—so people may well ask why you had the card in the first place.

Assuming you’re not using your real name on Instagram or Twitter, having just your real name alone probably isn’t that risky in terms of personal information. But if someone knows your real name plus your company or address, they can identify all kinds of things about you. It’s scary to think you could end up being stalked later, so please be careful.

I’m Potassium, a female member. Thanks for correcting the typo. As for Asa’s real name… hmm, I really had to think about whether to approach it from a classical perspective or what. My answer is basically the same as Mack-san’s and Kamihikōki-san’s. The one thing that concerned me is that the account is in the man’s name. Once your allowance comes in, you should definitely withdraw it in cash and move it to your own account. You might also want to think about where you withdraw it—doing it somewhere close to home might not be the best idea. If you ever incur your papa’s wrath and leave the money sitting in that account, he might take it back, which would be pretty painful. Since it’s his account, you wouldn’t even be able to appeal to anyone about it. I hope he isn’t that kind of papa, but since this is a relationship where you don’t want to share your real name, I think you should be especially careful about that. That’s just my personal opinion. P.S. The reason I like the answers in this Q&A box is that, like Mack-san’s, they offer incredible knowledge that ordinary women like me probably wouldn’t know. And when I think that papa-san might also have some incredible knowledge, it makes their very existence feel priceless! You can also catch glimpses of the subtle thoughtfulness and kindness of people like Kamihikōki-san in the answers. It’s fun—like discovering hidden human魅力 and going on a treasure hunt. So, to put it simply: To all the answerers, thank you as always for the knowledge and inspiration. And to everyone who asks serious questions, thank you for asking them. P.S. 3 This is just a guess about Asa and the typo, but I think the questioner may have been using flick input. For the “u” in the typo, they may have used the “a” keypad in flick input, and for the “so” in the typo, they may have used the “sa” keypad. So perhaps they’re not good at sliding up and down, or their smartphone wasn’t responding properly.

Since the card is in the other person’s name, it won’t be traced back to you. They have the bankbook, so they can see the withdrawals and account balance. P.S. From the man’s perspective, it’s convenient because he doesn’t have to go meet her or hand over the allowance every time. Some men deposit a fairly large amount upfront, such as six months’ worth. In that case, it probably makes a better impression if she withdraws it gradually as needed. It also means they can maintain the relationship without meeting, so it may be best not to withdraw a large amount all at once. That said, I think it’s generally something you do only after you’ve gotten to know each other well enough to share your real names, home addresses, and other personal information.