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Oct 10, 2022 15:14
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黒崎 蓮（スタッフ）
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Thank you for your question.
Kurosaki from the Kansai Unit here.
Since you mentioned that he does unpleasant things, such as cutting your time short, it feels like your belief that “being intimate with him is the best” may be somewhat one-sided.
Even though you’ve continued the relationship despite that, I think I would end it if I were in your position.
Other
In my case, sex without any emotional connection can’t be called the best, so if you’re already thinking about cutting it short, it isn’t truly ideal.
That said, I think men can physically “click” with someone, so if her attitude is within what you can tolerate, it might be worth continuing. While keeping things going, you may even meet a woman who’s truly perfect for you.
Marika
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
If no one seems to compare to her,
then you need to make sure your partner has a good time so she doesn’t cut the meeting short.
If you don’t enjoy treating someone well, you’re better off quitting papa-katsu.
If you expect something in return that matches what you’re paying, you should look elsewhere.
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スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If he won’t do a second round, that’s normal. It doesn’t mean the time was cut short.
Typically, one round lasts about an hour and a half.
Other
Maybe he’s cutting the time short to match what he’s paying because he’s dissatisfied with you.
Think it over carefully. It goes both ways.
Akari
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I’m a female member, Potassium, currently doing squats while eating Haribo.
Well, I think both sides are equally responsible. A successful relationship is about working things out together.
But if you think about it rationally, if you enjoy having sex with that woman, why not just see her for that purpose alone? In other words, assign her the role of providing sexual pleasure. If she wants to keep things time-efficient, she’s prioritizing efficiency too, so in a sense, that arrangement might be mutually rational.
On the other hand, if what you’re looking for is emotional pleasure, why not find a woman who isn’t focused primarily on sex and can be satisfied with dinner dates where you naturally connect emotionally? If sexual desire develops and she agrees, you can have sex with her too.
If you eventually decide that you only need the latter kind of woman, you can simply cut ties with the former. Isn’t the real problem expecting too much from one person and ending up in an awkward middle ground?
Rather than expecting the other person to change, first figure out what you can do yourself and try it. If that doesn’t work, you could tell the first woman:
“I wanted our relationship to become this kind of thing, so I tried doing this and that. I’d like us to build this sort of relationship, but do you think that would be difficult?”
If she dislikes it, you can end things with her. But if she says, “I’ll try too,” then, while being careful not to push her too hard, you could take responsibility for guiding the relationship.
That’s how I see it, anyway.
Just my personal opinion, though.
Other
Are you only physically involved with this person?
If you’re not happy with it, you can simply end things.
There are plenty of women waiting for offers.
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
It’s not about what other people would do—it’s about what you want to do.
Honestly, I have to wonder: if you can’t even decide something this simple for yourself, what does that say?
Also, if she’s brought up shortening the time, that means there are other men offering her a higher allowance. You’re probably right on the borderline where she’ll only continue seeing you if you shorten the time, because your allowance is too low.
If you don’t want to shorten the time, just offer a higher allowance. If you don’t think she’s worth that, then end things.
Other
I think compatibility includes things like how well you communicate when you’re together.
You might want to try looking for one more person in addition to the one you have a physical-only relationship with♪
Other
How important intimacy is varies from person to person. Some people will continue a relationship based on that alone, while others won’t. I think you’re simply the former, which is why you’re continuing the relationship.
For me, it’s not that important, so I wouldn’t continue seeing someone if I had a lot of complaints. That said, I’ve rarely had anyone treat me with such an openly dissatisfied attitude.
Your partner may have complaints too, but perhaps she’s continuing to see you simply because she hasn’t found a better papa (a male supporter) and feels she has no choice.
Of course, you’re free to make as many offers as you like, cut people off, or continue seeing them. But I keep hearing stories about truly awful papas, so every time I answer a question, I find myself thinking, “Oh, you’re one of those too?” At the same time, it’s made me feel grateful that, by comparison, my own evaluation has gone up.
Thank you.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
The best sex, in the truest sense, is built on mutual cooperation, with both partners enjoying themselves.
In other words, it’s only natural to think that you can’t have truly great sex with a woman who just wants to rush through it.
You could have the kind of sex you consider ideal with someone else, too, so I think it would be best to end things with her.
That said, here’s a word of advice:
It’s easy to assume that it’s the woman’s fault when she tries to cut things short, but why not first consider whether you might be partly to blame?
For example, maybe you see women as nothing more than bodies…
If you continue as you are, I feel you may end up having the same experience with other women as well.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Why don’t you discuss that with yourself?
Or maybe with your friends.
You’re you, and I’m me. How ridiculous.