I’ve rarely felt lonely or thought, “I miss them because we can’t meet,” no matter how close I was to someone.
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Maybe there’s a slightly cold-hearted side to me. I’m also someone who prefers doing things alone—I don’t want to tie anyone down or be tied down myself. Even with my small circle of friends of over ten years, meeting two or three times a year feels natural and just right. My way of thinking is that if we can maintain this kind of distance, perhaps we can remain friends for many years to come.
I never really understood the feeling or impulse of thinking about someone in particular, “I feel lonely. I want to see them right now. I want to meet them and have them by my side.”
However, after starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through a dating club, I was fortunate enough to meet a wonderful man. Once we became intimate, I found myself feeling unexpectedly lonely and missing him during the days when we couldn’t meet before the date we had arranged for next time. I’ve caught myself thinking, “I want to see him soon,” many times. I’m surprised and deeply moved by this fresh new feeling in myself.
[Question] Have any of you ever developed feelings you had never experienced before, or recognized a new emotion after starting papa-katsu? Did it lead you to take any action?
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Before I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I used to find joy in devoting myself to the person I loved—giving and giving until I eventually wore myself out.
But the papas (male supporters) are kind to me too. They say things like, “Thank you for dressing up for me,” “I want to cherish you always,” and “Don’t hold back—choose whatever you like,” while showing me their care in so many thoughtful ways.
Even when it comes to showing affection, everyone expresses it differently, which I find wonderful.
They’ve also taught me the joy of being cared for by a papa. I enjoy thinking about what I can do for my papa in return.
So you’re dating Mac! I hope you have a wonderful date together♡
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Oh! So you’re Mac’s romantic partner!
This feels like a love letter. It’s kind of wonderful to see a Q&A box being used like one!
How lovely that you get to experience feelings you never knew before.
Have fun on your date tomorrow!
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I’m glad you’re getting to enjoy the best parts of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Your papa (a male supporter) might be a handsome, sophisticated older gentleman with the composure that comes with age, taking you to extraordinary restaurants and experiences, being amazing in bed and making you feel good—and then giving you an allowance on top of it all.
A great papa like that is in the top few percent—probably less than 3%, in my experience. He’s a miracle papa, so cherish and nurture the relationship.
The feeling that came from starting papa-katsu is simply:
“Papa-katsu is so much fun. I can’t stop.”
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Isn’t she the girl I’m meeting for the second time tomorrow? lol
I like you too, and I can’t wait to see you and hold you.
P.S.
Yep, that was her after all, lol.
She just messaged me on LINE.
“Without ever touching the hot blood flowing beneath soft skin, do you not feel lonely, you who preach the way?”
You weren’t a doll after all—you had warm blood running through you. Good, good.
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My feelings haven’t really changed.
Nothing like a complete turnaround in my life has happened.
Meeting my papas (male supporters) has simply become part of my life. When I can’t see my favorite papa, I sometimes feel lonely or find myself thinking about him all the time—but falling for someone is something I’ve experienced dozens of times in my life, so it’s nothing surprising.
What surprises me is that the person asking this question is surprised by it.
Marika
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You’re definitely one of the winners in papa-katsu. Only a small handful of PJs get to meet a papa they can’t wait to see again.
And you’re wonderful. You’re a shining ray of hope for us papas.
Before I started papa-katsu, I was exactly like you—so much so that I wondered if I had somehow written your post myself. I’ve never felt lonely, I hate being part of a crowd, and although I probably have quite a few friends, I don’t particularly feel like seeing them.
So I started being a papa, but nothing changed.
Yesterday, because of the typhoon, I had no choice but to stay overnight with one of my monthly arrangement partners, so we were together until morning. But I was exhausted. I just wanted to sleep alone.
I want to keep living alone and enjoying my freedom, both now and in the future.
There are about three monthly arrangement partners I’d like to see, but even if I can’t meet them, I don’t feel lonely.
I guess I see the PJs more like daughters.
I’m a loser at papa-katsu. Maybe the responder’s name was a sign of the future, haha.
I’m just throwing money around, and it’s far from fulfilling...
Update:
Right now, there’s one monthly arrangement partner who seems like she might change me. She’s an A-type girl, and I haven’t even touched her. She doesn’t ask me for anything. She simply exists as she is. She’s a mysterious girl.
Update 2:
> Could I be the girl I’m meeting for the second time tomorrow? lol
I think so! I like how positive you are, haha.
That warmed my heart♪
Update 3:
> So it really was me after all, lol
Exactly♡
I was sure it was you too♪
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