When you meet on a monthly arrangement, when do you usually receive your allowance?
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At the beginning of the month? The end?
At first, we agreed that I’d receive it at the beginning of the month, but as we got more comfortable with each other, it changed to half at the beginning of the month and half in the middle, so I no longer receive it all at once.
I do receive the agreed amount every time, but I still feel uneasy about it.
This month, we couldn’t meet at the beginning of the month. When we met last week, there was only ¥50,000 in the envelope, and he asked, “Is it okay if I give you the rest later?”
And yet he says things that seem to hint at marriage—or something like that (he’s divorced)—and messages me on LINE every day.
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> I receive the agreed-upon amount every time, but something about it still doesn’t sit right with me.
I’m not sure what it means to call it a monthly arrangement if the agreed amount is paid in installments, but if it’s bothering you, I think it would be okay to ask if you could receive it all at once.
That said, bringing it up might lead him to suggest ending things, so you should probably be prepared for that possibility before you talk to him.
Even so, despite calling it a monthly arrangement, it sounds pretty close to a pay-per-meeting setup.
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I haven’t had many monthly arrangements, but I always received that month’s allowance at the beginning of the month or at the end of the previous month.
That’s basically how ordinary monthly parking works too, so in your case, it’s simply overdue payment.
Since he’s behind on payment, deal with him with the highest level of caution.
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That papa is way too stingy. Tell him something like, “I feel bad about this, so let’s go back to a pay-per-meeting arrangement,” and switch back to pay-per-meeting with him while you look for someone else.
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I don’t think that can really be called a monthly arrangement.
Once, I was told, “Would it be okay if I gave you your pay-per-meeting allowance next time?”—and then I never received it.
People who say they like you but make you feel insecure, or can’t be considerate of your feelings, are often just in love with the version of themselves that says “I like you.”
The next time he tells you he likes you, you might try saying, “Thank you. Then please don’t make me feel insecure.”
Or: “I’m not saying you won’t give it to me—I just feel anxious.”
Then see whether he still intends to continue things that way.
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I’m 月極 ぽたしうむ—“Monthly Potassium.”
Whoa, that sounds pretty intense. I’m surprised he seems like the type who can’t pay everything upfront.
I receive my allowance in an envelope at the beginning of each month.
Well, judging from his message, he sounds like a questionable guy, so personally, I’d suggest either a pay-per-meeting arrangement or saying goodbye.
Just my personal opinion, I guess???
The unspoken rule with a papa (a male supporter) is that payment is made at the beginning of the month.
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For a monthly arrangement, the allowance is usually paid at the end of the previous month or at the beginning of the current month. Some girls even receive six months’ worth upfront.
> “We couldn’t meet at the beginning of this month, so when we met last week, there was only ¥50,000 in the envelope. He asked if it would be okay to give me the rest later.”
That’s not even a monthly arrangement—it’s blatantly someone trying to get something for nothing. Be extremely careful.
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Don’t get involved with a man like that. He’s pretending to be genuinely in love just to get intimacy for free. If you can’t find anyone else, at least ask for a pay-per-meeting arrangement.
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