Would it sound creepy if a middle-aged guy wrote “I like women who let me be pampered” in his profile?
I’m not as perfect as Makeotoko-san, but I try to treat the women as kindly as possible without upsetting them. The truth is, though, I’d rather be pampered than pamper someone else...
When you run a company, there’s no one around to praise you. Before COVID, I’d go out drinking and let my guard down with professional hostesses to blow off steam, but I can’t exactly expect that from the amateur female members here...
I’m not particularly lacking in adult relationships, so more than that, I just want someone to tell me, even if they don’t mean it, “Wow, you’re amazing—you’ve worked so hard,” and pat me on the head...
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Even now, if she’s a woman from a dating club, she’s probably praising you plenty—something along the lines of:
> “Wow, you’re amazing. You’re really working hard. There, there.”
I’m sure she is.
> “I used to go drinking and let my guard down with professional hostesses to blow off steam.”
People like that fail to notice when women from the club occasionally praise them.
You should just stick to hostess clubs. Since you can afford to spend money somewhere that showers you with compliments countless times a day, you’re unable to appreciate the compliments that come out when a club woman has made an effort or lets her true feelings slip—those occasional words that really resonate with you. (It would be strange for her to compliment you several times a day.)
A woman from a dating club should watch you closely, support you more than anyone, acknowledge your efforts, and praise you. That’s how I see it.
Actually, if you enjoy hostess clubs, a dating club is probably a terrible fit for you. They’re completely different. Depending on the people involved, they’re worlds apart—for both men and women, even more so than the adult entertainment industry.
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It depends on how it’s worded.
If it’s written too directly, I might start wondering, “Is he into baby-play—like ‘babu’?”
That said, it can be really sweet when someone who’s socially successful and holds a fairly high position lets himself relax against my chest and says, “This feels so good,” or hugs me and says, “I’m tired today.”
It’s that contrast.
Someone who’s usually dependable and wonderful letting himself be needy can be really endearing.
So, I suppose the only thing you can do is choose women in their late twenties or thirties who have had a certain amount of life experience…
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That’s a good question（笑）
I agree with Flag Maker’s opinion. If you write it from the start, people might think you’re an M-type guy.
But in the end, maybe you are an M-type after all?（笑）
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You don’t necessarily have to spell it out—once you get closer, you can gradually show them your true self. You don’t have to go all out from the very beginning.
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Female member Potassium here.
Especially if you’re not looking for an adult relationship (intimate), why not write something like:
“I’m not looking for an adult relationship—I’m happy with dinner only (no intimacy), and I’d love to be pampered.”
Someone once said that PJ girls don’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because they particularly want to. Assuming there are lots of women like that, I think the person asking this question would have a pretty good chance of being in an advantageous position!
Wait, is that not what you meant?
Well, no matter how you phrase it, the fact remains that they’re doing papa-katsu, and it was the woman’s choice to do so. So when you gloss over that by blaming their circumstances or sympathizing with them, I personally feel like you’re denying the choice they made. It does come across as extremely condescending to me, but let’s set that aside for now.
Apparently, plenty of women like being treated that way, so everyone’s different. That means you should be able to find a woman you can build an ongoing relationship with, too.
So I think you should just write it honestly in your profile, to avoid matching with someone whose personality doesn’t click with yours.
Besides, revealing later that you’re actually someone who likes being pampered would create one heck of a gap!
Just my personal opinion.
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It’s all about how you word it.
Maybe you could write something like this in your profile:
“I joined because I’d like to connect with a woman who’s a good listener.
I started my own business, but being a CEO can be very lonely. I don’t want to show my family or employees when I’m having a hard time, so I’d love to share a drink and spend time with a woman who’s willing to listen.
Ideally, I’m looking for someone who’s more of an A type with some B, or a B type with some A. I’m not looking for an adult relationship (intimate). I’d simply love to enjoy good food and drinks together while talking with a wonderful woman who’s a good listener. If that sounds like you, I’d be very happy to hear from you.
Honestly, the best would be a woman who lets me lean on her a little, but I can’t ask for that much right away. For now, I’d just like to get to know each other and become friends.”
I have a monthly-arrangement partner who’s an A type and an amazing listener, and I’d love to introduce her to him.
She’s truly a genius.
I give her a monthly allowance of ¥50,000 for correspondence dates, and she genuinely comforts me through the letters alone.
We do sometimes meet for dinner dates, and I give her an allowance then too, but I’ve never even touched her finger and have firmly decided never to make a move. What we have now is perfect.
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