I always enjoy reading your posts and learning from them.

Since you’ve only just met and don’t know each other well yet, I’d suggest starting with pay-per-meeting. Or, if you’re confident there won’t be any hassle if he decides you’re not a good match and ends things—or asks for a refund for meetings you didn’t have—then go ahead with a monthly arrangement. Marika

Not holding hands on the first day may actually have been the right choice. I think it’s perfectly fine to go on dinner dates for a second and third meeting as well. Of course, compatibility matters, but I definitely think you’ll have better chemistry after going on a few dates than by having an adult relationship on the very first day. Rather than moving forward before you really know each other, it’s better for both of you to open up over two, three, or even four or five meetings—even if they’re only one day apart—before taking that step. You’ll both feel more comfortable and satisfied. It’s perfectly fine to wait until you’ve gotten to know each other in various ways, your worries have faded, and you’ve built trust. Also, if a man is willing to wait that long, it means he’s enjoying more than just the adult relationship, so the woman can feel more at ease too. A relationship with someone who treats you with care is more likely to last than one with someone who sleeps with you on the first day and disappears afterward, right? There’s also no need to worry about your physical compatibility. Some men may even want to give you several months’ worth of allowance without having an adult relationship. They aren’t necessarily expecting anything in return, so even if your chemistry isn’t a perfect match, it may not bother them at all. You can continue seeing each other without an adult relationship, or you could stop meeting altogether—either way, it’s not a problem. It simply means that he likes you that much. He’s the one enjoying it. If you’re worried about the adult relationship right now, I think it’s better to wait until your anxiety has gone away—until you feel that he’s someone you genuinely want to keep seeing, or until you’ve built a relationship where you can simply enjoy your dates together. That’s when your physical compatibility is more likely to develop naturally. It’s perfectly fine to explain it to him that way.

For now, just make plans to meet regularly and leave it at that. Since men are the ones paying, I think some of them feel they can cancel those plans whenever they want. If the physical chemistry is good, they’ll meet as planned. If it isn’t, they’ll end things from there. That’s probably their policy. People are all different, so when it comes to plans far in advance, I’d take what they say with a grain of salt. It’s probably best to go along with it for the time being.

There do seem to be a certain number of men who get ahead of themselves. I often hear stories like that from B-type women. Some B-type women want a monthly arrangement from the start, and I’ve sometimes wondered what they plan to do if they sleep with the man and realize he isn’t right for them. Maybe sex simply isn’t a priority for him, or perhaps he just doesn’t take promises or the person he’s dating seriously.

More questions seem to be getting hidden again lately. I’m not sure whether it’s Maezawa acting on his own or President Kida’s orders, though. Here’s my answer. There have been two women from Universe who proposed a monthly arrangement before having an adult relationship (intimate) with me. Miraculously, things worked out well with both of them, and the arrangements have continued for a long time. But before becoming intimate, I was practically praying: “Please, let us not be incompatible.” My heart rate especially shot up when I saw their areolas and when I performed oral sex and noticed their scent. Unfortunately, I do care about physical compatibility. That said, it isn’t everything. In fact, the women I gave the largest allowances to had only average—or below-average—physical compatibility. The papa (male supporter) your partner is seeing may be genuinely in love with her, and might even be hoping to marry her.

That man is a beginner, so you might as well take advantage of him. If you’re happy with the amount he offers, accept it. Never agree to be paid later. If he says he’ll pay everything in November, that’s a scam.

“Let’s meet on a regular basis” → “I’ll pay your allowance in one lump sum at the end of the month” → They meet once, then he disappears without paying. That’s a possibility too, so it’s better to say, “Until we get to know each other better, I’d prefer a pay-per-meeting arrangement.” P.S. Ever since men started receiving ratings, I feel like everyone puts on an act for the first date. Their true colors come out from the second date onward. Don’t be fooled by five-star ratings.