I recently registered as a female member in my late 20s.

Um, of course, no other people should be in the photo! (´；ω；｀)! It’s probably better not to crop it either. It would be awful if an acquaintance’s name got exposed through reverse image search… If you’re embarrassed, wearing a mask might be okay too? It would be best if it’s an original photo that hasn’t been posted on Instagram or anywhere, with no filters or editing (*˘︶˘*)｡.:*♡ Something natural—like taking it outdoors or at a sightseeing spot—might be nice♪

You don’t have to upload selfies. In most cases, the photos taken at your interview are enough. Selfies are available for people who feel those interview photos don’t fully show their appeal and want to highlight that they’re cuter, cooler, or whatever. So first, take a good look and ask yourself whether you’re actually unhappy with the interview photos. Then consider whether you have any photos that would make men more likely to send you an offer than those. If you do, that’s when I’d recommend uploading a selfie. Women may think that heavily edited app photos look better, but men generally don’t see it that way at all. With that in mind, it’s best to think carefully before uploading selfies. For example, photos taken by someone else while you’re traveling can sometimes be more effective than your interview photos. Swimsuit photos by a pool can also help convey that you’re someone who enjoys life, which may work in your favor. Photos showing a refined side of you that’s different from how you appeared at the interview, or ones that show you genuinely having fun, can be effective. But true selfies usually end up being close-ups of your face, which often backfire. Edited photos also tend to have the opposite effect, so be careful.

I feel like I often see photos taken by someone else that were probably taken quite a while ago. I see them not as a way to confirm someone’s appearance, but as a way to get a sense of their personality through their photos, so I don’t think it’s a problem if their hair color or length is different.

I assume selfies are edited, so even if one happens to be unedited, I’ll just give it a quick glance. That said, photos of the back of someone’s neck, them wearing a kimono, or a genuine smile while they’re doing something they enjoy will occasionally make me stop and take a closer look. Since selfies are normally taken alone, I don’t think they’re cringe, though?

I’m Potassium, a female member. First of all, congratulations on joining! I heard something similar when a papa asked a question before: apparently, as long as the photo isn’t drastically different from how you actually look, he doesn’t really mind if it’s a selfie. I’m quite chatty, so I’ve let all kinds of personal information slip, and even my phone case might give me away from my photos. My papa has actually told me, “You should be a little more careful!” So I do think you should take precautions to avoid being identified. Yes, I know—I’m the last person who should be saying that… So I think a selfie should be fine! *I don’t want to lie in this Q&A box, and if the person asking is genuinely worried, I feel it’s more credible for them to know what kind of person is answering. That’s why I sometimes reveal way too much.* Anyway, that was a conversation I had with my papa. Sorry, I went off on a tangent.