I recently had an interview and am waiting for my profile to be registered, but I was worried that saying I was a virgin would cause me to fail the interview, so I told them I’d had a few experiences.

This isn’t a sex-work service, so I believe virgins may actually be preferred. Are you waiting to hear whether you passed? If you’re accepted, you’ll be sent a login screen, and you can register your own profile. Explain the situation to the staff and politely apologize, saying, “I’m actually a virgin.” I’m sure they’ll view you more favorably.

I’m Potassium, a female member. I’m sorry to start with something a little harsh, but I believe that if you lied in order to get accepted, it’s your responsibility to deal with the consequences yourself. That said, if you’re already feeling that you should tell the club the truth because you’re a virgin and scared of an adult relationship (intimate), then I think you should tell them now so you won’t regret it later. The reason is that if you get an offer from a man because you registered as type C (or B) or higher, and then turn him down by saying, “Actually, I’m a virgin and I’m afraid of having an adult relationship,” he may think you committed “dating-type fraud.” Your reputation could take an even bigger hit than if you told the club the truth now. (This could happen even if the man is someone you genuinely feel physically unable to be with.) Also, the man you turn down for that reason might then make an offer to another woman. Even if she turns him down because she genuinely finds him physically unacceptable, he may already have the impression that she could also be committing dating-type fraud, and her reputation could suffer as well. Men are paying money to make offers, and many women join the club with a certain level of resolve too. Personally, I’d feel terrible carrying on based on a lie told only for my own benefit if it ended up causing trouble for others. Both men and women are participating within the club, so I think it’s worth keeping in mind—not just what benefits you, but how everyone can enjoy the experience. That may help everyone be satisfied and could eventually lead to a good encounter for you too. So if it were me, I would tell the club the truth. And from now on, I wouldn’t tell lies like that. Also, well, I do think being a virgin has value, so if you’re short on money, going through the club would probably be the surest option. Honestly, it may be possible to take a short-term loss for a greater long-term gain. (*•̀ㅂ•́)و✧ That’s just my personal opinion.

There is demand for virgins, but at the same time, some men may prefer to avoid them. For that reason, it may not be ideal to meet someone and then reveal that you’re actually a virgin. I don’t think it will affect your reviews, so it would be best to let them know in advance.

If it were me, I’d take that lie to the grave and deal with the consequences myself. If, only after the interview and registration, you suddenly said, “Actually, I was a virgin,” they might start wondering whether you had lied about other things too, which wouldn’t leave a good impression. And if you told only the man you were seeing, he might complain that it differed from what the club had introduced, or assume you were only saying it because you didn’t want to go through with it. I don’t know what kind of arrangement you’re looking for, so I’m sorry if this advice misses the mark. But if, among the men who make you offers, there’s someone you’d be willing to give your virginity to, it might be best to frame it as something like, “Actually, it’s been a while…” or “My first time was painful and didn’t go well…”

> If I tell him afterward that I was a virgin, could that affect my rating because he might think I lied? That alone shouldn’t affect your rating. However, he might add a comment like: “She said during the interview that she had experience, so I’m not sure whether she’s really a virgin or which statement is true.” You didn’t mention your dating type, but did you choose B? If you chose C, some men may think they can have your first time for the usual allowance, so I think you should be careful. If you chose B, the men may think, “This could be a long-term process,” so you’ll have some time to meet different men and decide to some extent who you want to be intimate with first. (In other words, if you receive several offers initially, you can think it over while dating them in parallel.) Also, once you receive your login account, you can write your own comment there. You might want to write something like: “I was worried that saying I was a virgin during the interview would cause me to fail, so I said I had a few previous experiences.” In the past, there were caring staff members who would help virgin women find good men. Some women reportedly received a very large allowance for their first time—over 500,000 yen, and possibly close to 1 million yen, though the exact amount is unclear. But those kinds of staff members probably aren’t around anymore, so you’ll have to negotiate with the men yourself. I think you should clearly communicate an amount you won’t regret accepting. Alternatively, rather than focusing only on the immediate amount, it may be more important to choose someone you feel will continue supporting you in the long term.

You’ll probably have a better chance of being accepted if you’re a virgin—there’s definitely demand for that. In fact, one of the male respondents is already warming up. I think it’s fine to correct it afterward. That said, you should explain the circumstances carefully. It might go more smoothly if you send the branch staff a LINE message or email with the URL to this question attached.