I’m a woman in my 40s thinking about joining a dating club.
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Are there any hobbies that would make you want to send an offer? Given my age, I’m wondering if having a particular hobby might make it easier to receive offers.
I’d be willing to try something if it could become a hobby.
I was thinking golf might be a good option, but does it make any difference?
Thank you in advance.
You should probably avoid taking up a hobby just because you’re thinking of starting it for the sake of getting offers.
If you make an offer because you think you share the same interests, only to find out she’s barely even into it, that can be disappointing.
It’s better to write about things you genuinely like and actually do. That gives you more to talk about, too.
— Marika
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Don’t you have any hobbies of your own?
I think that’s perfectly fine. If you’ve never played a full round, it’s probably best to avoid golf.
There are plenty of other options, like hot springs, driving, fishing, golf, retro places, visiting modern architecture, touring temples and shrines, or karaoke (which is my hobby).
Don’t worry—even I get offers.
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I don’t play golf.
From the perspective of someone who doesn’t play, listing golf won’t have any positive effect—it might even be a negative. That said, if you list plenty of hobbies, I don’t think it will stand out much. Karaoke might catch someone’s attention, though…
There are considerably fewer women in their 40s registered compared with women in their early 20s, so you’ll stand out more. I think there’s still a good balance between supply and demand.
If you’re okay with men who are 20–30 years older, you’ll probably receive quite a few offers.
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I’m Rin, a 36-year-old female SALON member.
I don’t really have any particular hobbies. I suppose I enjoy eating good food, if that counts.
I recently started playing golf, but I’ve only been going to the driving range and haven’t played an actual course yet, so I wouldn’t say I’m at the level where I can call it a hobby.
I think it would become stressful to list hobbies just to receive offers from men. I would also feel bad toward a man who offered to meet me because he was genuinely interested in that hobby.
It seems that some women in their 40s still receive offers, so rather than forcing yourself or lying, I think it’s better to be honest about who you are. That way, you can sincerely engage with the men who do offer to meet you.
In that case, it might be better to say, “I don’t have any particular hobbies right now, but I’d love to share yours and try something new!” Everything is an experience, after all.
I hope you enjoy your relationships!!
P.S. To Mac:
Thank you for thinking of me that way. I may not be as wonderful a woman as you imagine… but you gave me a little courage.
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There are hobbies I’d be interested in making an offer for, but only because I’m serious about them myself—so I get irritated when the other person is just pretending to be into them.
Golf could be a good choice, but I think you should have played at least a few rounds before listing it as a hobby. Otherwise, wouldn’t it be better to write, “I’d like to try golf”?
If you actually try it and don’t enjoy golf, you’ll probably end up saying goodbye to a papa (a male supporter) who loves golf. A golf date takes up the whole day, and the same goes for other hobbies like touring, scuba diving, or visiting art museums. Once you get seriously into any of them, they turn into trips, so they take more than just a day.
I think you should list something you genuinely enjoy and can really get into.
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