I’m a woman in my 30s considering signing up soon.

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I’m really torn between Type B and Type C. Even with Type C, it’s possible to go to a hotel on the second date, right? However, I’m worried that choosing Type C or D might make me seem easy, and that I’ll receive offers from men looking for a one-night stand or from men who aren’t very gentlemanly. Since I’m in my 30s, I’d ideally like to receive as many offers as possible without limiting myself to Type B. I’d appreciate any advice.

Answer 1

Since a range of opinions has already been shared, I’ll answer from a different angle—or rather, extremely frankly. I’m in my 30s, and when I see a Type B woman, my impression is that she’ll probably be “high-maintenance.” This isn’t about assuming that someone should automatically be willing to get intimate just because she’s older. In an arrangement club, relationships that last depend not only on looks and conversation, but also on intimate compatibility—and you can’t know that until you try. People talk about one-night stands as if they’re a bad thing, but even if things progress to an adult relationship at the first meeting, I’d guess the chances of meeting again are only about one in three. If you make it through three to five meetings, things become relatively stable, but until then, you’re still in the selection phase. It’s also a period when both people are trying to understand each other’s true nature while neither is showing their real selves. Women seem to establish another layer of their identity in their 20s. During adolescence, identity is about establishing who you are, while in your 20s it becomes more social: forming a worldview about how society works, what men are like, and how you want to act within that world. Women in their early 20s often enter this world before that has fully developed, reacting and acting according to the situation. But by the time they’re nearing 30, they understand how the world works and put up safeguards. When that results in a Type B classification, it becomes quite high-maintenance. You have to play along with her worldview. So I might look at her photos and think she seems nice, check her type, see her age, and then, if she’s a Type B woman in her 30s, think, “Oh, this is going to be a hassle.” If she seems promising, I’ll still make an offer partly to test my assumption, but it usually doesn’t work out. If I genuinely fell for her, I’d do it, of course—but there are situations where I find myself thinking, “Are you really expecting me to go that far under these circumstances?” If I point that out, she may blow up, send me a long LINE message, and immediately block me. In many cases, the final message is, in a sense, more childish than what I’d get from a woman in her 20s. On the other hand, perhaps women who have managed to reach their 30s while retaining that childishness—or innocence—are the ones who struggle with being Type B. So my advice is: “Commit yourself.” The things you consider dirty aren’t dirty; they’re simply the means and a stepping stone toward finding something pure beyond them. There are certainly things you can gain only by stepping in and taking risks. Conversely, if you don’t have the courage to do that, you’d be better off taking the safer route. But you should recognize that, in an arrangement club, that can amount to a kind of make-believe relationship. It’s not that one choice is right and the other is wrong. It’s simply about knowing your own limits. If you understand that and act accordingly, even as a Type B member, you’ll probably be able to communicate a little better and increase your chances of achieving a better outcome with a wonderful man. Taro

Answer 2

If you want at least enough offers to have time to assess them, go with B. If you want more offers, choose C—but if C means not meeting for the first time, men will probably take that as a polite rejection and make offers to other women instead. Whether you choose B or C, you can simply turn down any papas who aren’t gentlemen. Since one-night stands at a club aren’t cost-effective, I imagine there are very few papas whose sole aim is a one-night stand. If it ends up being sex just once, at the first meeting, with no continuation, it’s because the papa didn’t feel satisfied for the amount of allowance he paid. With C, you could turn down papas who aren’t gentlemen or who simply don’t appeal to you, and tentatively agree to everyone else. If you feel the allowance isn’t worth it, just don’t see them again or continue the arrangement. That might be the best approach.

Answer 3

B should be fine, lol. “Women with C or D cups are seen as easy”? Come on! Isn’t it rude to say something like that so casually? Aren’t you making enemies of women with C or D cups? lol So you want to avoid one-night-stand guys and collect as many offers as possible from gentlemanly men, then line them up and choose? I wouldn’t want to be lined up for the questioner to choose from, though, lol. Since you haven’t signed up yet, it’s only natural that you don’t know. But rather than agonizing over A, B, C, or D, I think you’d be better off putting effort into each real-life opportunity. People have genuine feelings behind both their words and actions—yourself included—so be careful, lol.

Answer 4

You can turn down the first meeting regardless of your type, and even with Type B or Type C, some men get angry if you decline an adult relationship. This is based on what women I’ve been involved with have told me, but apparently some club staff recommend Type C, so it’s probably true that Type C members are more likely to receive offers. It’s true that you can turn down either option, but I think it means that many men assume an adult relationship is part of the arrangement and want to move quickly toward it. The clubs want to make sales too, so that would make sense. For the record, I’ve only ever made offers to Type B women. (There is one woman who switched to Type C after we started seeing each other.) It’s not that I look down on Type C or Type D women, but they tend to seem more experienced, so for some reason I generally prefer Type B.

Answer 5

> It is possible to go to a hotel on the second meeting even with Type C, right? Type C focuses on intimacy on the first meeting, so if that isn’t possible on the first meeting, most people would take it as a polite way of saying no and assume there won’t be a next time. With that in mind, a second meeting with Type C is theoretically possible, but in practice, it seems like it would be nearly impossible. > I’m also worried that choosing Type C or D might make me seem easy, and I’m anxious about whether I’ll receive offers from one-night types or men who aren’t very gentlemanly. I vaguely remember a female respondent writing that she had experienced both after changing from Type C to Type B, and that the types of men were clearly different. I think she said the men who offered her dates when she was Type B tended to be more gentlemanly, though I may be remembering incorrectly. > I’m in my 30s too, and if possible, I’d like to receive as many offers as I can without limiting myself to Type B. Quite a few women in their 30s choose Type B. Rather than focusing only on the number of offers: If you’re hoping for an adult relationship (intimate) on the second meeting, you should choose Type B. If you’re okay with it from the first meeting, I think Type C would be the better choice. I also don’t think there’s a huge difference in the number of offers between Types B and C.

Answer 6

It’s possible, but if you say something like, “Let’s do C type next time,” the man may take it as a polite way of turning him down. If you genuinely intend to develop things into an adult relationship (intimate), you may miss your chance unless you’re proactive enough to invite him yourself for a second meeting.

Answer 7

It’s understandable to have a lot of doubts before signing up. I recommend registering under Dating Type B. From what I’ve seen in the club’s reports, women in their 30s still seem to receive a fair number of offers. I think the important thing is to start out without the stress of being treated casually or looked down on. I hope you meet a wonderful man!

Answer 8

Based on the question, I’d say she’s a C type. If you’re unsure—and are considering C—go with C. If you’re certain C won’t work for you, choose B. After moving to an adult relationship (intimate) once, I think you can decide based on whether you’d be open to it every time, or whether you’d prefer not to do it whenever you meet. There are quite a few B types who were torn between A and B, or who lean more toward A. As expected, Taro, you really said it well… > When I see a woman in her 30s who’s a B type, I get the impression that she’ll be a hassle. What men are really thinking is: “Why would a woman in her 30s be a B type??”

Answer 9

Since SALON doesn’t have dating types, I’ll answer based on what I imagine I would choose if I were registering. I’m 36, and as you said, I’d like to accept as many offers as possible. Even so, I’m not confident I could enter an adult relationship on the very day I first met someone, so I think I’d register as Type B. I don’t have enough experience to turn someone down smoothly, nor am I particularly good at conversation or talented in any other specific area. With Type B, I’d feel a little less pressure because I wouldn’t have to make a decision right there on the spot. I’d also make an effort so they’d want to meet me again, and I think that arrangement would suit me better. You should take your time and think it through before deciding. Why not consider your own personality and what feels comfortable for you?

Answer 10

I think Type B would be fine. Personally, if there were women of exactly the same level of attractiveness—one Type B and one Type C—I’d choose the Type B woman without hesitation. I had my first date today with a new Type B, and she was quite different from what I’d imagined. I was honestly relieved that she was Type B. With Type C, it would be rude not to invite her to continue things, but with Type B, you can simply say goodbye and leave it at that.

Answer 11

I understand your way of thinking. Since you’re in your 30s, you want to keep your options open, but you also don’t want to be seen as someone who’s easy to take advantage of—is that about right? Joe’s opinion is that you should register as a C. Meet them first, decide on the terms and other details, and then clearly communicate your own decision to them. I think that’s the appeal of being a mature woman in her 30s, rather than being in her 20s. Wishing you many wonderful encounters and relationships.

Answer 12

If that’s how you feel, I’d recommend B. I also wanted to take dating seriously and didn’t want to force myself into a decision, so I chose B. In the end, it reduced my stress, and I’m glad I did.

Answer 13

I think it’s fine for a C-type arrangement to involve an adult relationship on the second date, but that means you’ll need to steer things with men you feel you might actually want to see, as well as turn down and follow up with those you don’t. My impression is that women who aren’t good at refusing tend to choose the B type, while those who are good at handling or deflecting situations tend to choose the C type. Rather than overthinking the strategy, I think it’s best to go with your gut.

Answer 14

You can still turn someone down even if you’re a C-type, but sometimes people get upset and say, “You’re a C-type, so why did you refuse?” I personally assume women in their 30s probably receive plenty of offers, but wouldn’t a B-type profile be fine too? Also, registering doesn’t guarantee that you’ll receive an offer. Some people don’t want to register and show their face when they don’t even know whether an offer will come. So only register if you’re comfortable taking it easy and waiting patiently for an offer.

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