I’d like to understand what’s going on psychologically.
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When we’re intimate, my papa (a male supporter) often asks things like, “How is it with your other papas?” or “Which is bigger, his or mine?” He seems to get excited hearing about what I do with my other papas.
However, when I mention meeting other papas or my usual dates with them—not anything related to intimacy—during pillow talk or over a meal, he gives the impression that he absolutely doesn’t want to hear about it and quickly changes the subject.
I’m curious what this means from a male psychological perspective.
As others have said, I think it may simply be that man’s particular kink.
If he asks you every time and it’s starting to annoy you, why not bring it up during pillow talk, like:
“Whenever you ask me about other people during sex, I start thinking about them and can’t focus on being with you, so I’d really like you to stop…”
The key is to let him know that you care about him while making the request in a cute, casual way.
I wouldn’t mind talking about it over dinner or during casual conversation, but I don’t like being asked all sorts of questions in the middle of it…
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It’s fairly simple, really. As everyone has pointed out, I think it’s largely a matter of personal preferences and fetishes.
When we were younger, my wife had a boyfriend, and I would see her off as she happily went out to meet him. I felt intensely jealous, but at the same time, I couldn’t find the words to stop her from leaving so cheerfully. Back then, I often wondered if there was any way to calm my feelings and make everything work out peacefully.
In any case, I don’t think it’s nearly as complicated as you might imagine.
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I think that’s simply a personal kink.
Some people even put their fingers in their partner’s nostrils, mouth, or ears and mess around, so there are all kinds of preferences out there.
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I think whether you’re curious about how other men measure up depends on whether you feel confident or self-conscious about sex.
And if the only thing you’re interested in is sex, while you have no interest in—or don’t want to hear about—anything else concerning men, then...
If you ask which one is bigger, I think it probably means you either feel confident about that or have a complex about it.
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He’s the typical delusional guy who asks questions that can only be answered in the affirmative.
It’s exhausting, but try not to let it get to you… Find somewhere to vent.
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I’m the opposite—I don’t ask during sex, but I do sometimes ask about her other papas during pillow talk or on our usual dates.
As for sex, though, I can’t really say it’s psychological; it’s more a matter of that particular man’s preferences.
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It’s just a little spice for sex, and I have a thing for that kind of talk—it turns me on. You’d only find it boring if you heard it in an ordinary conversation, right?
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I think they’re vaguely aware that, as men, they’re low-spec and can’t compete with other papas looks-wise, so they want to make up for it by being good in bed.
Papas who say things like, “I’m great in bed,” are usually this type—and in reality, they’re terrible.
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