I’m Potassium, a female member.
I don’t think anyone would look down on you for working hard toward a goal you’ve set for yourself.
However, since you specifically mention “[even if I’m unemployed],” you seem very conscious of being unemployed. That makes me feel you may be more likely to regret where you are now once you reach an age when papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) no longer works out for you.
With papa-katsu, you may be able to get money easily if you’re lucky. But papa-katsu isn’t a job, so if you never learn how difficult it is to earn money—and instead depend on money earned by men… who knows what will happen to you in the future…
You may end up becoming no different from a parasite.
Incidentally, it reminds me of the horsehair worm that lives in a praying mantis’s abdomen!
That’s what another woman in her twenties, Potassium, thinks.
Just my personal opinion.
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> Would you be put off if someone was unemployed but studying languages, investing in their appearance, and so on?
I think whether someone has an income is more important than whether they have a job.
(Even if they’re unemployed, there’s nothing to worry about if they have rental income, investment income, YouTube revenue, or something similar, right?)
It also depends on why they’re studying a language and where the money for their beauty expenses is coming from.
> Would you be put off if someone was trying to make a living through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
I wouldn’t be put off, but the fact that they say “if they were trying to” means they aren’t doing it yet.
That makes me think they probably wouldn’t be able to support themselves through papa-katsu.
People who can make a living through papa-katsu are already in a position to do so—they don’t say things like “if I tried.”
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Conversely, how would you feel if an ordinary 20-year-old guy said, “I want to live solely off mama-katsu. I’ll go to the gym in my spare time”?
You’d be completely turned off, right?
The answer is obvious.
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If I were the man, and on the first date I’d arranged, she told me:
“I’m unemployed, but I’m putting a lot of effort into my appearance.”
“I’m thinking of making a living as someone’s mistress.”
I might think, “She’s a professional papa-katsu girl—better get out of here.”
But it’s all about how you phrase things.
If she said:
“I want to become a ___ someday, so I plan to stay in school until around ___ in order to make time to study.”
“I’m working hard on my appearance for my papa.”
Then, if he were a decent person, he might actually want to support her.
That’s basically what I mean.
Since you have the opportunity, why not really study and gain a skill? You’d be killing two birds with one stone!
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☆Would you be put off if someone were unemployed but spent her time studying languages or taking care of her appearance?
I don’t think being unemployed means you shouldn’t study. If anything, you should take advantage of having the time and study as much as you can.
As for being unemployed and focusing on your appearance… I’d question it a little if she were getting very expensive cosmetic procedures. But doing affordable stretching or strength training at home is something I find very positive.
☆Would you be put off if someone tried to make a living through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
I mean, as a mistress.
With papa-katsu, there’s no guarantee that you’ll definitely receive ¥100,000 the following month. Statistically, I’d say the chances are probably under 50%.
The person you’re seeing is human, too, and people’s feelings can change quite often. Even if she’s incredibly beautiful, has a great figure, and a wonderful personality, people’s hearts are fickle.
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> Would it put you off if someone tried to make a living through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—as a mistress?
> I feel like you could only live that way for a short time.
I wouldn’t want to keep supporting someone who has no dreams or goals. When you’re young, I think it’s good to have goals that really set your heart racing.
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No matter the reason, I would never be put off by someone who is making an effort to work her way up and improve her situation.
One of my monthly arrangement partners set herself these goals:
- Don’t be late without a valid reason
- Don’t use taxis for transportation
She came up with them seriously. I wasn’t put off at all—in fact, when I encouraged her by saying, “Let’s keep at it!” she got teary-eyed (´இωஇ｀)
Isn’t it incredibly difficult to support yourself through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) alone, without any other job?
It may be fine while you’re young, but as more women younger and prettier than you start doing papa-katsu every day, continuing to keep your papas is bound to become difficult. If you can manage it, that’s genuinely worthy of applause.
That’s why I’m not put off.
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You can study languages without spending money, and I assume she’s probably trying to learn one for work, so it wouldn’t put me off.
That said, I might privately think, “Is that really where she should be putting her effort?”
When it comes to beauty, it depends on how much she’s spending on it.
If she was trying to live solely on her allowance, I wouldn’t exactly be put off—but without any kind of plan, I’d find her uninteresting and lose interest.
If she had some sort of plan, such as living only on her allowance until the end of the fiscal year, I wouldn’t think anything of it.
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