Is there someone close to you whom you wish you had met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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I feel like my sense of things is getting warped—I find myself thinking, “I wish I were getting an allowance” when I spend a day off with someone quite a bit older than me.
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You’re bugging out. Your eyes have literally turned into yen signs lol.
That said, calling it “bugged” is kind of unsettling. After trying papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), some people no longer understand what having a boyfriend means, or start wondering what marriage is, and their values change in all sorts of ways. You could call that being bugged.
And since it’s a hassle to argue when people say papa-katsu itself is a bug, I guess everyone has their own values.
What scares me is that you may also be losing things without even realizing it.
There’s a real difficulty in figuring out for yourself how to reconcile what you gain, what you lose, and what changes along the way.
Come to think of it, there’s an urban legend that lots of people become unhappy after winning the lottery—but apparently it may actually be true lol.
You buy a ticket to become happy, so you’d never expect to end up unhappy, right? Is it because your sense of money changes? Because your values change so drastically from what they were before winning? Because you get greedy and want to make even more? Because it affects the people around you?
I started thinking a little more deeply about that, but then I realized I hadn’t even bought a lottery ticket lol.
No point thinking about useless things lol.
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There are many people who have shared and taught me all kinds of things, and with whom simply having tea or a meal feels like a genuinely good time.
I also make an effort to learn and grow so that they can feel the same way about me.
If you’re constantly acting superior and only talking about money, you’ll become a woman with nothing inside.
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Even outside papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), men may give their wives or girlfriends things worth more than an allowance—like a house or a car—or simply give them money. So in a normal, healthy relationship, you should be able to feel reasonably fulfilled through gifts or spending money, even if it isn’t papa-katsu.
If you don’t see it that way, then you can simply choose not to meet.
By the way, men sometimes feel glad that they met someone outside of papa-katsu. Is the opposite true for women—that they want the financial benefits?
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I’m Takei, a staff member.
I’ve never felt that way myself. If I really want an allowance, I go to a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) setting. And if I ever did start feeling that way, I’d simply distance myself, because it would mean neither that man nor I was genuinely enjoying ourselves.
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There isn’t really anyone like that in my immediate circle.
One of the good things about this activity, after all, is that you can meet women you wouldn’t normally encounter in everyday life…
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I don’t meet one-on-one with young women other than my partner, so I’m perfectly satisfied with allowance-based dating.
I’m not considering taking a more proactive approach for now—or probably anytime soon, haha.
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So, in your view, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is the same as working in the sex industry, then?
Even at my age, there are men who are happy with dinner only (no intimacy).
Do you see men as nothing more than money?
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These days, my main hunting ground is the regular dating scene (anywhere outside Universe Club), and the girls I approach aren’t doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
That’s exactly what makes the hunt fun for me. If my target were already doing papa-katsu, I wouldn’t approach her.
So, in that sense, I’ve never thought, “I wish this girl were doing papa-katsu.”
The reverse is true, too. When it comes to girls I met through papa-katsu—for example, my ace—I don’t think, “I wish I’d met her normally.”
She motivates me to work, so I have nothing but positive feelings about her being a papa-katsu girl.
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I’m not really sure I understand the situation.
Do you not want to see this person? If so, why not just stop seeing them? Do you have no choice because of work-related obligations? I’ve been in situations like that too, but I’d still want an allowance, honestly. Actually, if it wasn’t going to benefit me financially—even indirectly—I’d spend the whole time thinking of every possible way to get out of there, and then make my escape.
Oh, but I wouldn’t do anything intimate. It’s work-related, and we’re both men. Though, is the person asking the question actually doing anything intimate with him in that situation?
On the other hand, if you enjoy seeing him, are intimate with him, and want an allowance, then I get the feeling that might be a kind of desire to get married.
Well, even if you don’t like someone that much, it’s still nice to receive an allowance, right? You can never get so much allowance that it becomes a nuisance. It’s like getting towels or soap as a midsummer gift. I love alcohol, so sometimes I think how happy I’d be if everyone I passed on the street handed me a can of beer. Shibuya Crossing under those rules would be like a dream.
Sorry for rambling.
Taro
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I’ve never thought, “I’d do papa-katsu with this man…”
If anything, I’ve occasionally met men who were so wonderful that I found myself thinking, “I wish I’d met him outside of papa-katsu,” or, “I bet I’d be happy with a father/husband like him.”
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