I’m grateful to have been able to register with the club, and I received an offer right away.
I’m really looking forward to my first date as well.
I have a question: I’m thinking of preparing a small gift for our first date, but I’m worried it might actually be an inconvenience.
For example, if there are things you’d be happy to receive—or, on the other hand, things that would be a bit awkward or unwelcome—please let me know.
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I think sweets are the best option.
Actually, about one in ten people brings a gift on the first date, and it’s always sweets.
I’ve never seen anyone bring something homemade.
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I also agonized over what to bring on my first date. Something consumable seemed best, but I wondered whether it might be a nuisance if he didn’t like sweets… It’s a tough decision, isn’t it?
In the end, I brought a small box of sweets to my first date. As an alternative, a selection of unusual drip coffee packets is compact, and since many men drink coffee, I remember them being well received.
From my experience, I always make a point of expressing how happy I am that he invited me on the date, that he reserved such a lovely restaurant, and that he treated me to the meal. I also make sure to thank him for the transportation allowance. Even so, I once got so nervous that I forgot to thank a man for the meal and even forgot to give him the gift I had prepared. When I messaged him on LINE right away, he said, “I’ll look forward to it next time we meet.”
Even if the date isn’t perfect, I think it’s important to make sure your gratitude comes across clearly.(^^)
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I think it’s better not to give anything on the first date.
I’ve received gifts on second and subsequent dates, and by then they generally know enough about my circumstances and preferences that they rarely miss the mark. But on a first date, a gift could potentially leave a negative impression, so I think it’s better to focus on enjoying the day together as much as possible.
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What I’ve received were delicious chocolates, a cute parasol, and a bouquet of flowers.
If you’re giving something to a man, I’d recommend “delicious chocolates that he can finish on the spot”!
Married men might have trouble with other gifts, so it’s difficult to choose... (´；ω；｀)
I hope we can both meet someone wonderful! (*^^*)
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I live alone, so I’m happy to receive gifts—I can take anything home. I’m not picky either, so it always leaves a good impression.
Only one person has ever brought me a small gift on our first date, and she’s still receiving a generous allowance from me to this day. She’s my ace. The gift was just some snacks costing around 500 yen.
She had arrived at the restaurant 15 minutes before me, and I could tell she was trembling like a fawn.
“I need to take good care of this girl.”
That was what I thought, and looking back, it was incredibly creepy, but I asked her to enter into a serious relationship with me that very day. Since it was meant to be a serious relationship, we didn’t begin an adult relationship (intimate) until three months after our first date. As for the frequency—or rather, the intervals—it averages out to no more than once every three months.
My role is to stay close to her while keeping an appropriate distance, so I don’t get in the way of her life.
I have two women in my life, but my ace is more important to me. I don’t know why. She just is. I don’t know whether it’s because of the gift, but I was happy to receive it, and I still carefully keep the wrapping paper.
It’s a relationship that would be hard for anyone else to understand, but the two of us understand each other. It’s not papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but it’s not a romantic relationship either. You could hardly call us partners, and of course, we aren’t boyfriend and girlfriend.
I protect her, and she is protected by me. Nothing more, nothing less. It’s certain that protecting her gives me peace of mind.
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It’s best not to bring anything at all.
If anything, bring a small amount of snacks that can be finished—but it won’t necessarily make a better impression.
It can actually have quite a few downsides, like making them wonder if you have some ulterior motive or didn’t get an offer. It may feel a little unnatural. Actually, there might be quite a lot of downsides…
I’d avoid bringing anything the first time, when you don’t know each other yet.
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I once received a metal bookmark with a wing design. It came with a small note that said, “Thank you very much.” I only read books on Kindle, so I don’t actually use bookmarks, but I still appreciated the thought and got a good impression from it.
I’m a little hesitant about being given food when meeting someone for the first time. I’m careful about what I eat, and before I know the other person well, I can’t help worrying about the possibility of something having been added to it, which makes me uneasy (sorry). But if it’s something I can take home rather than eat on the spot, I’d gratefully accept it as a thoughtful gesture.
Some women give me sweets by the box, but when I’m alone, it’s often too much and I end up not knowing what to do with the rest.
Alcohol, on the other hand, is fine even in large quantities. As long as it’s around 30 kilograms or less, I’ll carry it home.
Taro
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Good evening~
Your first date sounds exciting!
Even if he has a family, something like “a small box of sweets costing around ¥1,000” would be nice since he can finish it before getting home at the latest. A large gift box might make him feel obligated, so I think something really small would be best. Maybe around five GODIVA chocolates?
You could add a little note like, “I’m sorry if you don’t like sweets…” or “I’ve been really looking forward to our date today!” That would be cute, I think♪
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- Something consumable
- Small enough to fit in your date’s bag
- Easy to carry even for someone who isn’t carrying a bag
I think sweets or rice crackers in a very small gift bag are a safe choice.
I used to prepare local specialties that could spark a conversation, or snacks that weren’t too sweet in case the other person didn’t like sweets.
That said, gifts are meant to help you grow closer, so I think anything works as long as it gives you a chance to start a conversation or lets the other person get to know your personality.
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