I’ve been a member for six months, but yesterday I met a person to avoid. When she didn’t call even after the agreed time, I thought something was strange. Then I found out she had asked the staff at the meeting place to look for me.

Oh, I see! So the person asking the question was actually a man to avoid (*ﾉ>ᴗ<)ﾃﾍｯ

Go ahead and use an app. If you think about it simply, apps don’t have interviews, so they’re basically lawless. When it comes to the chances of encountering a person to avoid, apps are overwhelmingly worse. There’s no club interview filter, after all. Posting about it here won’t accomplish anything—it’ll just be an empty rant. If you’re a member, leave feedback. If she receives enough negative feedback, her rating will drop and she’ll naturally be weeded out.

She probably didn’t exchange LINE contacts with you because she decided she wasn’t interested in seeing you again. Women are waiting for offers, so up until the day of the first meeting, they’re filled with both anticipation and anxiety about what kind of person will show up. They’re thinking, “I hope he’s wonderful…” while also wondering, “If he turns out to be strange, how should I politely decline?” It’s a complicated feeling. Since the club collects feedback, and women go out of their way to decline exchanging contact information without hurting the man’s feelings, please try to understand where they’re coming from. You haven’t met her, so you can’t really know, but she’s probably not a person to avoid—just an ordinary woman.

You wrote that she never called even after the appointed time, yet you went inside and asked the staff to look for her. Doesn’t that mean you were supposed to meet inside the restaurant? If the meeting was inside the restaurant, the table should already have been arranged (you did make a reservation, right?). You could simply say, “I have a reservation under ___,” and they would show you to your table. If the woman wasn’t there yet, you could just wait until the appointed time. If she still didn’t show up, then she was simply late. Thinking about it that way, I don’t think I’m the only one who finds it strange that you wrote, “She never called.” Also, some women are frightened by arrangements where they can’t see what the man looks like beforehand. After all, they could arrive at the meeting place, find a scary-looking man waiting there, and be abducted somewhere. In reality, Universe holds on to the man’s identification documents, so he wouldn’t do anything like that, and it’s safer than using an app. But from the woman’s perspective, she naturally trusts her own instincts more. If someone looks scary from a distance, I think it’s perfectly normal to want to run away. In your case, she probably came out because you didn’t look like a frightening person. But it’s also possible that the moment she met you, you started lecturing her, and she decided there was no way she could deal with you. You really need to reflect on why you couldn’t be kind to her in that situation. If you can’t do that, then you’re not suited for a dating club and should withdraw. > I think she originally only intended to have the first meeting and had no plans to meet a second time. I don’t understand what benefit the woman would get from doing that. It’s not as though she only wants to receive 5,000–10,000 yen. The transportation money is far too little for her to be thinking of it as a one-time meeting. By the way, are you new to the club? Was the staff’s explanation insufficient, or did you simply not listen? You seem to have completely misunderstood how things work, so I think you should withdraw. If you can’t change your way of thinking, I imagine other women won’t want to date you either. Looking more closely, I see you wrote that it’s been six months. What on earth have you been doing for the past six months...?

> She originally only agreed to a first meeting and had no intention of seeing him a second time. There’s no way any woman would be like that. She’s not a man, you know. > From Universe Club’s perspective, she’s a good woman because they can keep collecting introduction fees whenever she’s introduced again. No way that’s true. That line of thinking is just too absurd…

As Kazu-san said, I think it would be a good idea to submit feedback. That said, as Makeo-san and Date◎Yume-san pointed out, I also think you should take this opportunity to reflect on your own behavior. I’ve never been treated that way on either an app or through a club, so you probably have at least a few things you could improve. If the situation was really as Makeo-san described, then it goes against Universe Club’s principle that members should be gentlemen, and I’d say you should be asked to leave. And if Universe Club admitted someone like that simply because he paid the initiation and membership fees, I think the club seriously needs to reconsider its own standards as well. Based on what I’ve seen and heard in the question box and from women who have dated members, there seem to be quite a few truly outrageous male members.

Haha, I’m voting for Mr. Loser! I wonder which one it really is, though, haha.

I’m sorry to say this, but you give off the unmistakable vibe of a地雷 with enough destructive power to reduce everything within a one-kilometer radius to rubble. Isn’t it possible that, upon spotting you at the meeting place, she instantly realized, “Wait, is this sketchy-looking person my arranged date?” and tried to escape by any means possible? Whether a woman becomes a地雷 depends on the papa. If the papa makes the utmost effort to look clean and presentable, behaves like a gentleman, and offers a reasonably generous allowance, even a地雷 woman will transform into a refined, adorable virgin who belongs only to you. That’s what dating clubs are all about. Even a broken phone can instantly become brand-new, so I suggest taking a moment to reflect on yourself. If you’re truly a gentleman, my answer shouldn’t irritate you. But if it does, there’s a very good chance that you’re the地雷.

I’ve been with Universe Club for two years, but I’ve never met a woman like that. I think it would be a good idea to leave negative feedback. The apps don’t charge a setting fee, but there’s a lot more effort involved before you actually meet, so you can still end up wasting time and money. That said, I met someone through an app in just two days who was unlike anyone I’d come across at Universe. It made me realize that women like her probably don’t pass Universe’s interviews. If you’d rather save money than avoid the hassle, apps may suit you better. Since the results can vary so widely, you might even enjoy the experience more.