He calls five times a day, for a total of four hours on the phone
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It’s getting a bit much. I’m so frustrated I end up hitting my bed. Now that he’s getting older, he repeats the same stories and the long calls are exhausting.
Is there any way to keep the calls shorter?
What I’m thinking of doing is joining a gym and saying that mobile phones aren’t allowed in places like the locker room.
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Even with a boyfriend, I wouldn’t want to have calls like that.
If it were me, I’d make up an excuse and not answer.
No matter how much money I was offered, I just couldn’t do it…
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There used to be something called Dial Q2.
If you set up your phone for it, NTT would automatically charge the caller ¥100 per minute, deduct a substantial service fee, and deposit the money into your bank account.
At four hours a day—that’s 240 minutes—you’d make ¥24,000. It’s a bit borderline, but eight hours would bring in ¥48,000, which seems like enough to make you feel it’s worth talking longer.
That service was eventually discontinued for various reasons, so it no longer exists today.
Still, you could try saying something like:
“My parents get angry because they always get a busy signal when they call me, so it’s going to be difficult for me to talk on the phone from now on.”
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You really have an incredible amount of patience—rare these days. I think that’s admirable. But let’s put that energy to better use. Helping the other person is fine, but if there’s nothing in it for you afterward, you’re simply wearing yourself out. It’s difficult to collect payment for services provided over the phone. If you’re meeting in person, you can settle up in cash on the spot, but with phone calls, that’s basically impossible.
So your best move is to get away. Since it’s hard to hang up in the middle of a call, just don’t answer in the first place. Saying, “Sorry, I didn’t notice the call,” should be enough. You can also say you were busy with work. If you want to end the call midway, just say your landlord showed up or that you have someone at the door. Any excuse will do. If they keep pressing you, gradually start treating them like a stalker and put the pressure back on them. Let’s get better at handling this kind of confrontation♪
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Four hours in this day and age?? You must have a real talent, asker.
You could put that phone and communication skills to good use.
With a dating club, the only calls you’ll get are from women. Even families barely use the phone anymore…
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If someone requires a total of four hours of phone calls but still isn’t worth the time and effort, I think it’s perfectly fine to end things in the first place.
It’s the same at work, but I often find that older people can only communicate by phone. Those who make long calls and talk about things unrelated to the matter at hand are extremely annoying, so I completely understand how you feel.
In my case, I’ve never met anyone wonderful among people like that, so I don’t answer their calls, only return them when it suits me, and eventually end the arrangement.
Phone calls suddenly take up the other person’s time, so unless something is urgent or can’t be conveyed briefly, I’m the type of person who thinks it’s better to avoid them.
There are older people who communicate properly by email or social media messaging, so I think you’re better off seeing someone like that.
Of course, if they’re someone you don’t mind talking to, then there’s nothing wrong with calling them.
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I think it’s best to gradually cut back.
Come up with a reason that would resonate with that papa, such as work, family time, or time with friends. For example, if he seems to appreciate someone who’s dedicated to their job, you can use work as the reason.
You’ll have to think about the specifics yourself.
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Can’t you just turn them down by saying you have plans or work?
You’re really kind to respond to everything. But if you don’t want to, isn’t it important to say no sometimes? If it’s only a phone call with that person—and it isn’t even interesting—then spending that much time on it seems like a waste.
Ah… unless you’re receiving an allowance for it, in which case I suppose it can’t be helped.
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I don’t understand what you mean in the last part.
Do you mean that you go to the gym and aren’t allowed to use your phone in places like the locker room?
Ah—you’re thinking of telling your papa (a male supporter) that you can’t use your phone because you’re at the gym?
Why not get a job? Then you wouldn’t be able to answer calls and things like that anyway. You’re only dealing with this because you have too much free time. Getting a job is the best solution.
How many hours are you planning to spend in the locker room?
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