Question about being blocked on LINE.

Yes, I have〜! It’s when I absolutely, without a doubt, never want anything to do with someone again. Other than that, I don’t just block someone for no particular reason ( ´・ω・｀) If I block someone, it means something pretty serious must have happened...

I’m Misato, a female member. Before joining Universe, I had never blocked anyone on LINE. But one person sent me some really unpleasant messages, so I blocked him. I agree with Aya.

I’ve only been unexpectedly blocked once. We went on one date, it developed into an adult relationship (intimate), and we’d both said that we had great physical chemistry. Then, in the middle of a conversation, my messages suddenly stopped being marked as read. It was hard to process at the time. But in the end, time heals. I made offers to other women, got to know them, and eventually moved on and forgot about it. Then, long after I’d forgotten about it, a staff member accidentally introduced her to me as a secret woman. I explained the situation to the staff member. Later, they discreetly shared her feedback with me, and there was nothing negative at all. These days, I’ve made peace with it by assuming that perhaps a man offering a more generous allowance came along.

For starters, why not think about things working out instead? Why ask such a negative question? If you keep thinking that way, exactly that will happen. You need to think more positively. As I wrote in a recent question, it’s important to be able to sense whether you’re compatible. Whether it’s in the general dating world or at a club, all you need to do is find a woman who’s compatible with you, so being able to tell whether things are “going well” and whether you click with someone is extremely important. If you can’t do that, then—like the previous question said—you can’t tell who’s better than whom? Don’t be ridiculous. Women make harsh judgments about who’s better all the time. Men just have no idea unless a woman is exceptionally good. They’re simply blind to it, so train your eye.

I’ve never been blocked out of the blue. I have had someone block me when I checked a while after we’d gone our separate ways, though. Oh, and there was one woman whose entire account disappeared, haha. It’s depressing when I can no longer see a woman I’ve fallen for, or when she stops replying. The only way I can take it is to assume I must have done something wrong, because that’s simply the fact of the matter. When I’m devastated, I don’t resist it—I let myself sink as far as I need to. I go over the memories again and again, regret everything, sometimes lose faith in people, and even send a desperate LINE message hoping to somehow turn things around, only to be ignored. There’s nothing very cool about it. That’s how my heart becomes a scorched wasteland, and after two or three months, something starts to grow. Calling it “rebirth” sounds rather dramatic, but sometimes I don’t even learn from my past mistakes—I simply forget them, and after a certain amount of time, I find myself charging straight toward making the same mistake again. Then I get burned to a crisp all over again, recover, and repeat the process. But these days, after going through that cycle so many times, it feels as though fertile black soil has spread across the land. Whatever seeds I plant seem to grow vigorously and bear abundant fruit. Sometimes I wonder whether mistakes are really such a bad thing for human beings. Ethically speaking, I suppose the dating club business itself could be considered a mistake, too… The saying “If you’re going to eat poison, lick the plate clean” is surprisingly profound when you really think about it. What does it mean to live a fulfilling life? Incidentally, the biggest shock was discovering that the president of one of my business partners had blocked me, haha. We’re resuming business together now, so if I get the chance to see him, I’d like to ask him directly why. Taro

In cases like this, I assume I’ve been blocked. It’s not completely unexpected, of course. But since these were girls I had gotten along well with, they’d shared various personal details with me—like their real names, home addresses, workplaces, and phone numbers. So honestly, even when they block me on LINE, I always feel like things have been left unresolved. Naturally, I don’t try to contact them through any method other than LINE or go see them in person. I tend to dwell on it quite a bit, so I can’t really move on until I find the next great girl（笑）

I’ve decided not to do to others what I wouldn’t want done to me, so I don’t block people. Besides, I’ve never come across anyone who made me want to block them, so I’ve never actually blocked anyone.

It’s hard to say exactly what level “without any prior warning” refers to, but if someone gives me an overwhelmingly bad feeling, I might just block them. For example, if they shower me with abuse over a minor misunderstanding. I think many women are put off by men’s desire to control or by violence, so behavior that hints at those things is likely to get someone blocked. The reason I don’t block them is when I’m still willing to try talking things through.