We had dinner when we first met, and he told me that I was his type looks-wise and that he really enjoyed talking with me, so if we were compatible physically, he’d like to make a monthly arrangement with me.
He also said that even if we weren’t compatible, he would still pay me properly for that time. Yesterday, we had sex and he gave me ¥50,000.
Afterward, he said, “We were really compatible. I was surprised. If you’re okay with it, I’d love to continue seeing you.” He also complimented me in various ways and asked, “Would you like to go out for dinner again after Golden Week? We can talk about our future arrangement then.” We parted ways after about an hour and a half.
I was happy at the time, but thinking about it afterward, I started wondering: If he really liked me, couldn’t he have discussed the arrangement yesterday? Why did he put it off until next time? Maybe he only wanted to sleep with me once from the beginning and never intended to make a monthly arrangement. But since he couldn’t exactly tell me to my face that there would be no monthly arrangement because we weren’t physically compatible, perhaps he just hinted that there would be a next time before we parted.
I had already told him that work was busy and that I had work today and tomorrow, so maybe he let me leave early because he didn’t want me to get home too late. Still, we spent such a short time together, and since we parted yesterday, I haven’t contacted him—and he hasn’t contacted me either.
What do you all think?
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How did you feel about the chemistry?
As a man, I’d like the woman to reach out more and more.
If she’s excited and satisfied that you two clicked, I’d expect to get lots of messages from her between yesterday and today…
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A monthly arrangement isn’t really binding—there’s no particular legal penalty for not honoring it—so it’s practically meaningless.
The woman’s benefit is that she still receives her allowance even in months when they don’t meet.
The man’s benefit is that, after seeing each other repeatedly, he may ultimately be able to have sex for less than what he would pay on a pay-per-meeting basis.
I imagine those are the main points, but they’re also probably what leads to disagreements.
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Maybe I’m overthinking it, but…
What I find strange is that after we parted ways yesterday, he didn’t even send a quick message saying, “Thank you for today.” Does that mean he didn’t actually feel grateful, so he didn’t bother reaching out…?
If it were me, and someone had made time to meet me—especially if they might be willing to start a monthly arrangement and I was happy with that too—I’d at least send a brief thank-you message. That’s just how I see it…
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Why are you so set on a monthly arrangement…?
Maybe you’re overthinking it, but you got ¥50,000 for a short meeting, so just take it as a win. If it doesn’t work out, all you can do is wait for the next offer.
Don’t overthink it.
You’re going to discuss the arrangement when you meet next, right? Even with a regular job, you don’t just sign a contract out of nowhere. Stay calm and wait.
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In my case, I stopped doing monthly arrangements after a bad experience, so I’m not sure when the right time is to bring one up. However, I also take the other person’s schedule for the following day into consideration when deciding how long a date should be. If the situation were the same, I might simply leave it until the next time.
Also, this is just speculation since the other person usually contacts me first, but they may simply be waiting to hear whether you genuinely enjoyed yourself.
In any case, if you’re satisfied with the compatibility and the terms of the arrangement, including the monthly arrangement, I think it’s perfectly fine to continue seeing them. There’s no need to become suspicious at this stage and overthink things like whether or not to contact them.
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