Should I send a follow-up message asking to meet??
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I’m the person who asked for advice about my love life yesterday.
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12929
On Saturday, I sent:
“I’m feeling better now! I’d love to see you again. If you’re okay with it, I’d be happy if we could meet next week too.”
He replied,
“I’m glad you’re feeling better. I’m a little busy next week, so I’ll see if I can work something out.”
So I responded,
“I’d like to see you, but if you’re busy, don’t push yourself.”
He read it but hasn’t replied, and Monday is almost over.
It’s still the beginning of the week, so maybe he hasn’t replied because he doesn’t know his schedule yet. But after hearing everyone’s opinions here, I’m starting to think I should be more proactive.
So would it be too soon—or come on too strong—to send another message along the lines of:
“Thanks for all your hard work! If you’re busy this week, how about next week? I wasn’t feeling very well last week because of my cough, so we didn’t get to talk much. I’d really like to properly tell you how I feel.”
If this were papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I could send something like, “Let’s do our best this week too, ○○! (heart)” along with a selfie or continuing a conversation we had on our previous date, and maintain the relationship…
But when it comes to romance, it’s difficult..
By the way, it doesn’t seem like he has another woman, although I can’t be certain. Due to various circumstances, that’s just the impression I get.
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Since it’s Monday, it’s probably best to wait until around Thursday.
I understand the feeling of “I have to contact him!” but try to calm down a little...
With relationships between men and women, I think it’s best to maintain a comfortable distance—not too close, but not too distant either.
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“Thanks for everything! If you’re busy this week, how about next week? I wasn’t feeling well last week because of my cough, so we didn’t get to talk much. I’d really like to tell you how I feel properly.”
↑ Personally, I think this message is perfectly fine.
You could even just come right out and say, “I like you.” If a man doesn’t waver when a beautiful woman is pursuing him, then it’s probably just not going to happen.
He’s saying he’ll work something out, but he hasn’t invited you out and is leaving things on hold, so if this continues, I think there’s zero chance.
There’s no better strategy than making someone interested in you. It’s fine to send a follow-up message.
If he has no intention of dating the questioner, I hope he rejects her soon so she can move on and look for another guy.
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I don’t think you should send another follow-up LINE message! If you keep chasing him, he may pull away, so let’s wait a little longer♪ If another message comes through while he’s busy at work, he might even find it a bit bothersome to open… I’m rooting for you!
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Instead of just saying, “I’d like to see you, but if you’re busy, don’t push yourself,” I think it would be better to be more direct and include feelings like “Thank you,” “I’m happy,” or “I’m looking forward to seeing you.” Show that you’re happy and excited about meeting them.
If you’re always being overly considerate, they might think you’re not interested.
If you’re going to send a message, it should be something that makes the other person happy, like:
“Good work today! If you’re busy this week, I’m free anytime next week 😊”
“I’d be happy if we could meet soon.”
Sending a message focused only on your own convenience could backfire.
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I think being proactive and sending follow-up messages are two different things.
I believe they mean you should be proactive when you meet in person...
It’s only been two days, and the other person said, “Next week is going to be a little busy, so I’ll see if I can work something out.” Why not wait for now?
Since you exchanged messages last Saturday, “next week” means this week, right? They said they’re busy, so sending follow-up messages would be a bit much. If they were my boyfriend, I’d message him constantly, but in this case, I’d wait at least until the end of this week.
That said, if you’re going to think, “I only sent it because someone here told me to,” or “I should’ve sent it,” then you’ll probably feel better doing what you believe is right.
I don’t know you or the man you’re seeing, so I think you should do whatever you feel is best. I hope it works out well for you!
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