Hmm, that’s true. My work schedule is pretty packed, so the girls who can work around the dates I request tend to become my regular monthly arrangements.
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Of course, a woman who’s easy to make plans with is probably preferable to one who’s difficult to schedule with (lol). Men aren’t free 365 days a year, after all.
Also, if he feels that spending time with him is low on your list of priorities, he may start to lose interest.
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It may not be that they’re upset simply because your schedules don’t line up. Maybe what bothers them is that, when they don’t match, you don’t seem to be making any effort to work around their schedule.
If the papa is genuinely busy, you’ll probably both just accept that it can’t be helped and gradually drift apart. But if he likes you and is making an active effort to fit you into his schedule, then you can’t really blame him for being a little put off.
So I think the best approach is to show some genuine willingness and a little sweetness by trying to make your schedules work. In my experience, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) usually goes smoothly when you’re both sweet and straightforward. Good luck!
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Being sociable is a good thing, but making it difficult to coordinate schedules isn’t.
If you’re sociable, I’d think you could prioritize or adjust your plans when necessary—especially if you need the allowance or that papa (a male supporter).
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Is being social really a bad thing?!
Being social and having schedules that don’t line up aren’t necessarily the same thing. Even very social, busy people will make an effort to meet when they’re busy if they’re good at managing their schedules and priorities.
So maybe your papa (male supporter) felt a little uncomfortable because either his priority to you—or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) itself—seems low.
Since we don’t know how often he wants to meet, if he’s the type who wants to meet almost every day, then you may simply not be a good match.
I’m sure there are also people who are happy with a relaxed arrangement, like meeting once a month! I think it’s best when both people can enjoy the relationship without stress.
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That means you have a lot of friends, right? If so, you’re not emotionally unstable—you’re easy and fun to talk to, which I think is actually wonderful. That said, you may not like a papa who wants to meet frequently and see you again right away.
There are all kinds of papas, so try accepting every offer you get. I’m sure you’ll meet the man who’s just right for you.
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I actually like girls who are hard to schedule with.
I have too many women I’m seeing, and I also want to go to men’s relaxation salons, so I’m fine with rescheduling. Besides, my ace is incredibly hard to schedule with—she’s the busiest girl in the world, lol.
That said, useless papas like me are rare, and just like in sales, it’s all about satisfying the other person, so it’s obvious that I should improve.
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I wouldn’t be bothered at all, and I wouldn’t show any displeasure over something like that.
That said, I do think I gradually drift away from people whose schedules never line up with mine.
So if it were a woman I really liked, I’d make an effort to work around her schedule somehow.
Looking at it the other way, if you like that papa (a male supporter), it might be a good idea to make an effort to accommodate his schedule too.
However, if he’s showing displeasure over something like that, he may simply be a bit short-tempered.
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I’m still very much in my prime working years, and I have a lot of work-related social commitments, so my schedule is always packed. Even so, I’m still able to make time for dates with the woman I’m seeing almost every month.
I make an effort to plan our schedules in advance, and even when I genuinely can’t meet because of my own commitments, I’ll make time to see her briefly and still give her an allowance.
Some papas may dislike women who are very sociable because they’re possessive, but I don’t think the issue is whether she’s sociable. It may simply be that the two of you aren’t good at coordinating your schedules, or that this relationship through the dating club is a low priority for you or for the papa you’re seeing.
Based on your question, I can’t help feeling that there’s an attitude of, “Because I’m sociable, my other plans come first, and if the papa can’t accommodate me, that’s just how it is—or he should be the one to adjust.”
To me, a sociable person is someone who is good at prioritizing, considerate of both their own and the other person’s schedule, and capable of managing their time while maintaining many relationships.
Even relationships through a dating club require consideration from both sides, so this may sound harsh, but I don’t think you’re actually sociable. You simply have a lot of friends and aren’t very good at managing relationships.
You can either work on becoming more considerate and better at coordinating, look for a papa (a male supporter) with plenty of time and emotional flexibility to accommodate your schedule, or, if papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a low priority for you, quit papa-katsu.
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