Generally speaking, if a papa (a male supporter) asks you to see only him, how much allowance should you receive per month?
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My papa told me he doesn’t want me to have any other papas. Originally, during the time I’m able to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I planned to have multiple papas, meet them whenever I could, and save as much money as possible.
He said, “I want you to not have any other papas and to be with me exclusively. I want you to feel that meeting me was worth it and that you don’t need another papa. It may be difficult to say, but I want you to tell me the amount of allowance you’d like.”
It seems like he would pay whatever amount I ask for, but I feel a little hesitant about asking one person for a large sum.
So I’d like to know what the usual standard is and use that as a basis for deciding how much to ask for.
I’d appreciate hearing your opinions.
For reference, we currently meet twice a month on a pay-per-meeting basis, receiving ¥80,000–¥100,000 each time. It’s ¥80,000 without an overnight stay and ¥100,000 with one.
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If you ask for too much, he may think it’s impossible and lose interest.
You could say something like:
“I’m only doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for now to save some money, so I don’t think it would be realistic for you, Mr. XX, to support me on your own. I really appreciate how you feel, though.”
That seems like the safest approach.
For example, if you were seeing ten papas in parallel, your current papa would be paying ¥160,000, but multiplying that by ten would come to ¥1.6 million.
It would be difficult to simply ask someone to pay ¥1.6 million and expect them to agree. So I think it’s better to handle things tactfully, continue the relationship, and try to maintain your current situation.
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What do you mean by “should” in “How much should I receive per month”?
I feel sorry for men who have to pay ¥80,000–¥100,000 per meeting just to date a woman like this.
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There’s no fixed standard, so I think it’s fine to tell him the amount you want—or need. That said, I’d be a little wary of someone who makes you set the amount yourself.
If he wants you exclusively, I think it would be better for him to offer what he can—or is willing—to pay, and then let you decide whether to accept it.
A girl I’m seeing once received a similar proposal from another man. I suggested offering an amount calculated as the number of days in a month multiplied by the allowance, assuming they would meet every day for a month.
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If you’re going to bring it up, I think it’s better to say, “I need around ___ a month,” rather than calling it your “desired amount.”
Some papas are willing to offer a generous amount even if you only meet once or twice a month. There are also people who’ll pay the same amount regardless of whether an adult relationship is involved.
Some even offer so much that you lose interest in meeting other papas.
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Hmm, if it were me, I’d just say:
“I’m sorry! To be honest, I’m currently receiving around 〇 a month, though…”
and leave it up to him to decide (* 'ᵕ' )☆
I’d be happy if he wanted me all to himself, and even if he asked for a little more, I’d honestly tell him how much I’m currently receiving each month. If I’m going to be seeing one person for a long time, I feel like I’d regret it later if I wasn’t upfront♪
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As I’ve said many times, there are no universal rules when it comes to relationships. It all depends on whether both people involved are satisfied with the arrangement.
There was a question like this a little while ago, for your reference:
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12665
Marika
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