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Mar 27, 2022 17:01
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I wouldn’t go so far as to say I’m completely devoted to her, but I do value her.
And I can do that without constantly worrying about her mood. As I mentioned in a previous answer, my wife was the one who cheated first, so in Fuu’s case, I guess I got lucky.
Unlike the person who keeps posting questions just to criticize me, I value my family, my work, and the papa-katsu women in my life. I’m grateful for what I have and keep a good balance while enjoying a fulfilling life.
You only get one life, so I’m making the most of it.
Other
There are men who seem almost psychopathic, seamlessly showing different faces to their children, their wives, their lovers, the girls they meet at bars, their rivals at work, and so on.
But men like that aren’t thinking about anything at all. They do things simply because they want to. Their desires are what drive them. That’s really all there is to it.
Besides, if they seriously dwelled on their guilt toward their families, they couldn’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in the first place. I think that positive energy—whether for better or worse—is what makes papa-katsu men who they are.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
What kind of body type does the person asking this question have themselves?
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
It has nothing to do with the person asking the question.
Other
I’ve never tried to win him over, but I haven’t gone out of my way to gauge his mood either. I don’t feel the need to do anything that badly, and I don’t worry about anyone else’s reactions besides my family’s.
You could say there’s a screw loose, but if you’re overly concerned about the men you date—their families and personal relationships—you might be better off quitting the dating club.
For what it’s worth, things are good between us at the moment. I imagine most women would be troubled if their papa (a male supporter) became serious about them, so I think this arrangement works just fine.
I do grow fond of the women I date, though. Many women are already unhappy with their spouses, and I’d be the one in trouble if they ended up seriously falling for some older guy like me（笑）
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I don’t think she intends to impress him, nor do I think she’s trying to read his mood.
Besides, what would you do with one particular person’s feelings anyway?
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Are you talking about me or Flag Maker?
I’m not constantly worried about how everyone else is feeling.
I enjoy experiencing the full range of emotions, being needed by my family, coworkers, friends, papa-katsu women, and my girlfriend.
Even if my wife found out, I don’t think it would be a problem, since papa-katsu women are ultimately people I’m involved with through money—it’s different from cheating.
I also believe that being needed and loved by my wife and daughter is what allows me to be needed by papa-katsu women and my girlfriend while still being my usual self.
Conversely, I think my success with papa-katsu women isn’t just because I have a girlfriend. It’s also thanks to having my wife and daughter in my life and interacting with them.
My longtime girlfriend has taught me what women really think, and because my wife and daughter are so strict when it comes to checking me, I’ve come to appreciate how they’ve helped me improve.
Other
I see relationship clubs as something that exists precisely because I have a family I care about.
The allowance is for that reason, and it helps keep things from becoming too serious.
The women also register with the relationship club understanding that, so I believe it’s possible to build a mutually beneficial relationship.
Other
Thinking about it so negatively will only make you feel worse (>_<)
Wouldn’t you actually feel more comfortable dating someone who values their family?
Let’s both do our best without overdoing it♪
Other
You’re not really watching his mood, are you? It’s the same as when you’re working or playing golf—you don’t do those while constantly checking his reaction.
Marika