I’ve received offers from men before, but several times they’ve canceled after we made arrangements.
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They said work came up and asked to reschedule, and I did end up meeting them on another date afterward, so I don’t think they canceled because of my profile or ratings. However, when an offer is confirmed, I set aside work and other plans and wait for it. I find it hard to accept being canceled on without any explanation or compensation.
If possible, I’d like to see a system where men send women something as an apology, such as an Amazon gift card or a Starbucks voucher.
Am I the only one who feels this way, or does everyone else just accept it right away?
Do you really go out of your way to make time for a date on days when you have work? Other commitments are one thing, but I think you should prioritize your job above all else.
Marika
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Kida here, the representative.
Give him a break. But I get it—I understand how that guy feels, too. A ¥1,000 Starbucks gift card is enough to cool off even a hundred-year love affair.
Wait a second, though.
I don’t know whether it was ¥1,000 or ¥5,000, but it only feels bad because the woman was asking him to pay it. If I were a male member, I’d actually prefer a system where I could reschedule openly by paying ¥5,000.
That would be better than having a woman say, “I let you reschedule.”
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I’m Nana Ayase ☆
You can’t say something like that when you haven’t even been on a date yet.
If you’re still upset, just leave feedback after the date and give him a lower rating.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
What do you think about women who cancel after everything has been decided, or refuse to go on a date with the man?
Trying to demand money or gifts even though you haven’t even gone on the date is pretty shameless.
For what it’s worth, I often use letter dating, and sometimes the first date we arranged through our messages gets canceled.
Obviously, I would never say, “I’d like you to reimburse me next time for the restaurant I reserved.”
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here. I’ll answer this as well.
There has been talk of this for some time.
The idea was that if a woman cancels at the last minute, she would pay ¥10,000, which would be deposited when she registered.
Since that alone would put women at a disadvantage, the idea was also that men would pay ¥10,000 if they canceled at the last minute. In a man’s case, since he has already paid the setting fee, it would be transferred to the woman from that fee when he canceled.
That was the general idea, but it hasn’t been implemented.
The reasons are simple: asking women to deposit ¥10,000 when they register could make the company seem suspicious, and we’d be concerned about a drop in female registrations. Men might also decide to go elsewhere if that were the policy.
I think these things are fairly difficult to work out.
That said, cancellation-fee systems have long been standard in the travel industry—for example, 100% on the day of cancellation, 50% the day before, and 30% from three days prior—so I don’t think introducing one here would be all that strange.
I hope you’ll understand that there are various factors to consider.
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I’m Keisho Arai from FS5 (Field Sales).
It’s frustrating when you’ve kept your schedule open only to have things suddenly canceled, isn’t it…? But the same goes for the men—they also take on that risk when making an offer.
In fact, if they’ve made a restaurant reservation, they may even have to pay a cancellation fee.
Even so, no one says, “Please keep the next eight hours free when I make you another offer,” so I hope you can take it in stride and think, “I’ve got some unexpected free time—lucky me!”
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