A papa (a male supporter) in his late 50s who’s single invited me to have an adult relationship (intimate), so I messaged him to ask how much the allowance would be. He replied:
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“I’d like you to take a moment to calm down and think about this.
I give you pocket money each time to support your lifestyle and help you maintain your beauty, but I don’t see it as paying a fee for each service.
What you’re doing, ○○-chan, isn’t what people usually call prostitution.
Even if we don’t spend Christmas together this year, I’d like us to have a warm relationship where we care about each other.”
It seems like this papa (a male supporter) has unilaterally convinced himself that I’m his girlfriend. Has he forgotten that this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
He says we won’t be spending Christmas together this year, but since he already has plans that evening, I suggested meeting during the day instead. He then told me there would be no Christmas present.
If we’re not spending Christmas together, I’d rather not meet during the day either and spend it with my family. On top of that, the allowance he gives me each time is only enough to cover transportation.
Please tell me how I should reply. Thank you.
I’m Kida, the site representative.
So, up until now, you were getting ¥10,000 just for meals, and he got angry when you tried to confirm the terms for an adult relationship in advance. That’s what happened, right?
Well, of course he got angry.
With your completely incomprehensible writing, didn’t you send something like: “¥50,000 for four hours, hotel fee separate, condoms required. Please get an STI test beforehand. Also, kissing and fingering are off-limits”?
To you, he may just be someone who pays a certain amount for four hours, but isn’t he the person who had been giving you ¥10,000 just to eat together?
Let him keep dreaming a little longer.
Don’t shatter the fantasy—just take the ¥30,000 or ¥50,000 or whatever it is, and enjoy it.
It’s all in how you say it.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Since you’re giving her a taste of her own medicine, you should use her wording:
“Please take a moment to calm down and think about this.
Although I receive money to maintain my lifestyle and appearance, women actually have more expenses than the amount they receive.
If you’d like to continue seeing me looking this beautiful, would you be willing to give me an allowance of around ¥50,000 per adult relationship (intimate), on a pay-per-meeting basis?”
Something like that, perhaps.
Though I’m sure it’ll probably mean the end of the relationship, lol.
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President Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
> It seems my papa has convinced himself that I’m his girlfriend. Has he forgotten that this is papa-katsu?
I think he simply wants to have sex for ¥10,000. He hasn’t forgotten—it’s probably just that he doesn’t have much money and wants to keep the cost down.
Since you wrote:
> I give him spending money every time to help support his lifestyle and beauty regimen.
I think you could reply with something like:
Thank you for giving me an allowance each time to support my lifestyle and beauty regimen. I didn’t think of it as payment for a service where I accompany you to meals. I thought you were a kind person who supported me regardless of whether we met or not.
I was worried that perhaps I was receiving it as compensation for meeting you, but I’m touched that you’re willing to support me even when we don’t meet.
Here’s my PayPay information. Could you send it here from now on?
That said, this reply assumes you’re planning to end things.
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I’m Nana Ayase☆
Aya, that’s a great comment.
Seattle, watch your language.
To the person who asked the question: aren’t you two already about to part ways?
If you’re looking to fall genuinely in love, that’s a different story.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
“○○, I’m sorry for making you feel sad.
That wasn’t my intention. I do want to get closer to you, but I signed up here because I thought that being involved with someone more mature would help me grow and let me experience a slightly more grown-up relationship.
So I started dreaming that, instead of dating someone my own age, being with you might allow me to live a little more comfortably—not constantly worrying about saving money. I’m sorry. I know I made you feel bad…
I have to work several part-time jobs to support myself, so I probably won’t be able to see you very often from now on. But I really do like you, ○○. It’s just that being broke is hard. What should I do? (>_<)”
I don’t think this will work if there’s no allowance involved.
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He’s such a pathetic papa (male supporter) that even a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) app would be a waste on him, so please send him a link to a dating site. Somewhere packed with fake profiles would be even better.
Or maybe Mr. Kida’s email address would work.
Don’t type even a single character.
What a loser.
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I’m in Seattle.
You really think I’d sleep with some foul-mouthed old geezer for 10,000 yen? Save the nonsense for after you’re dead—or better yet, drop dead right now, you piece of garbage. You’re a nuisance to society.
The only reason someone as busy and popular as me would meet a piece of garbage like you is because you’re an ATM. Are you an insect or something if you can’t even understand that?
If we’re going to care about each other, hand over 500 billion yen per pay-per-meeting.
Writing things like that will only make him resent you, so Kazu-san’s answer is the right one.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I have no intention of engaging in prostitution either, but maintaining my appearance and sexual well-being requires a larger allowance.
Since it seems difficult for us to bridge our differences in perspective, I’d like to end my relationship with you here.
Thank you for the short time we spent together. Goodbye.
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