There’s an older guy who’s seriously fallen for me.
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He seems desperate for me to like him, but all he ever talks about is how rich he is—“I’ve got money! I have assets worth several hundred million yen!”
And then there’s the dirty talk. Things like, “That actress has huge breasts,” “That sweater really shows off her chest,” or “I’m getting hard.”
He’s creepy, but he gives me lots of presents, so I’ve decided it balances out to zero.
I think the dirty talk is probably just because he has no sense of propriety, but I’ve been wondering why he keeps talking about money all the time.
Since those are the only two things he talks about, I can’t help but see him as vulgar. (Though I’m hardly one to talk, lol.)
I do try bringing up everyday topics that have nothing to do with money, but he ignores me and starts talking about money again.
I’ve thought about what benefit this gives him and what he thinks he’ll achieve by talking like this to make me like him. Lately, I’ve started wondering if he’s doing it because I look like I want money and presents.
Since I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because I wanted money and nice things, I’m beginning to worry that it shows on my face more than I thought.
Is there such a thing as a money-hungry look?
And is there any way to hide it?
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
You’ve heard the phrase “Give and Take,” right?
Someone who is always giving is called a Giver, while someone who is always taking is called a Taker.
You can tell the difference between Givers and Takers pretty clearly from their attitude. Takers tend to look displeased when something doesn’t benefit them. Givers, on the other hand, maintain the same attitude regardless.
I think you have a Taker mentality.
By the way, once people realize you’re a Taker, they’ll start distancing themselves—so be careful.
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I’m Kida, the representative.
Ah, there it is—you’ve shown your hand. You’ve got “money” written all over your forehead.
But hey, that’s a good thing. You know how they show courtship dances on the Discovery Channel? The birds and ants dancing around?
That’s basically what this is, isn’t it? Attenborough said it too: males who can’t dance don’t get any attention.
So next time that old guy starts bragging about his money again, think of it as his courtship dance and wait for him to finish.
He’s in his prime while he can still dance.
Keep dancing, old man!
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I’m Aya, a female member.
For better or worse, men rarely make sexual jokes around me. When I asked my papa about it, he said, “You’re a daytime girl, and you seem serious.”
So the person asking this may come across not as someone with a “money-hungry look,” but as someone who wouldn’t be put off by sexual jokes. Or perhaps that papa is simply a tactless, unhinged person.
Still, I can’t imagine someone that unhinged making hundreds of millions, so if you’re thinking, “I’m okay with it because I’m getting paid, but I’d rather make him stop if possible,” then I think your only option is to act like a pure, innocent type.
Men who are genuinely in love with someone won’t do things that truly make her uncomfortable.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
He still seems better than a papa who doesn’t have any money.
At least you got a present—that’s nice.
Wouldn’t he be easier to deal with than a silent, grumpy papa?
Ideally, you could just not overthink it and let his comments roll off your back.
But if you can’t do that, it’s probably best to say goodbye.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think money is simply the easiest selling point for this man to use. In a dating club, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. It probably isn’t because you look like you’re particularly interested in money or gifts.
As for the dirty talk, I can somewhat understand where he’s coming from. Since this is a relationship involving an allowance, he probably wants to express his desires honestly.
I feel that dirty talk and genuine romantic feelings don’t usually go well together, though maybe that’s not always the case.
I don’t think there’s any particular facial expression that makes someone look money-hungry.
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I’m in Seattle.
You may actually be a good match for that older guy who’s genuinely falling for you. I think you should just keep things as they are.
Treat it like part of your job at a hostess club and humor him by listening to his bragging.
Of course, if he starts giving you your allowance less frequently, he’s just garbage—dump him.
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