I have a papa who’s been seeing me for years, but we haven’t decided when we’ll meet next.
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Whenever I ask him on LINE, “When do you think we can meet?” he skillfully dodges the question...
He’s the only papa I have, so I’d be in trouble if he disappeared. (I work full-time in an office, though.)
I really can’t think of anything I might have done...
Does this mean he doesn’t want to see me anymore?
When a papa decides to cut off a girl in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), do they usually just disappear without saying anything?
I’m really sad. I wish he’d at least say something to me at the end.
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
That’s sad—I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Even if your papa has his reasons, the fact that you can’t make plans feels like a sign that the relationship may be coming to an end, just as in a normal romantic relationship. When you sense a breakup coming in a regular relationship, how do you usually handle it?
I think it’s wise to:
- Prepare yourself emotionally
- Start looking ahead to your next relationship
If you really love him and don’t want to break up, you could make one heartfelt final appeal and tell your papa that you really want to see him and don’t want to end things. But before you act, also consider how much it might hurt if your feelings don’t get through to him.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
From a man’s perspective, I think you’re being kept on the back burner. It may sound harsh, but it means you’re seen as “a convenient woman who’s always available.” If he wanted to end things, he probably wouldn’t reply at all, so I think that’s unlikely.
Your time right now is precious. Even if you wait, you have no idea when his problem will be resolved, and it would be a waste to spend that time hurting yourself with unnecessary worries. If you’d be in trouble without a papa (a male supporter), you should consider having more than one papa.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If he’s replying, he does intend to meet you.
It may simply be that he’s gotten a little bored.
There will come a time when he wants to see you again.
This kind of worry comes up because you’re focusing on just one person.
I think it would be a good idea to start looking for another man while you can.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Even after seeing each other for so many years, I guess something like that can still happen. I don’t know what happened, but perhaps you somehow offended him?
It seems more likely that things with that papa will come to an end, so I think you should look for a new papa.
If things don’t end, you’ll simply have multiple papas, and either way, I think it’s fine.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
That’s sad to hear.
After all these years of seeing you, is this the only time he’s been evasive?
If so, I can understand why you’d feel uneasy.
> I’d be in trouble if he disappeared.
Do you mean you’d be in trouble because you’d lose the allowance? I’m asking because, considering how I’ve approached my papa up to now, I wouldn’t use the word “trouble” myself.
Your papa may be paying attention to that aspect.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
That’s a little tough〜
There’s no point trying to explain things to men like that—it’ll only backfire. Just leave them alone and move on to the next one.
I hear you’ve posted in the question box several times because you’re not getting any offers. Apparently, even making a small update to your profile will bump it back up, so try changing something. There are plenty of other things you can do too, right?
Look into what you can find out on your own first. You can’t just rely on others. You need to take the initiative and go after those offers yourself.
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