When a man I meet says things like, “I’m poor…” or “This is all I can afford…,” I can’t help but think less of him. (Regardless of whether it’s true.)
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Is he perhaps saying it out of modesty?
That said, I obviously wouldn’t want him to say, “I’m rich,” either. It’s like when a friend says, “I’m not cute, so…” and I don’t know what the best response would be for her. Maybe what bothers me is being told things that I can’t do anything about, which leaves me at a loss for how to respond.
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Honestly, it’s easy. Just tell them what they want to hear.
“Mr. ○○, you’re such a wonderful man, so ○○ is more than enough for your allowance ♡ Please don’t be so modest.”
Just say something you don’t even really mean, and you’ll be fine.
After that, they won’t say things like, “Sorry it’s not much,” anymore.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
“I’m poor, so…” really doesn’t sit well with me (lol). I’m sure he means it modestly, but it just makes him come across as lacking in vocabulary.
If he can’t afford to give an allowance, he should at least use his head and choose his words carefully so he doesn’t make the woman uncomfortable.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
He says, “I’m sorry I can only give you a small allowance.”
I honestly don’t mind at all—if he’s a papa I’d want to see even without an allowance.
Would this be a good response?
“No, I’m more than happy just to be able to see you. Thank you for being so thoughtful.”
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Wasn’t this question posted before?
Is it copied and pasted?
Regardless of your income, I think you could simply tell him something like, “This is the amount I’d like to receive,” and explain that it reflects how you feel.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s not that I’m genuinely poor—it’s more a relative comparison.
Compared with wealthy men who offer an allowance of 100,000 yen or more, I simply can’t afford to pay that much.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well.
I think he’s just making excuses to say:
“I know the allowance is low, but I’d like to ask for this amount. If I paid any more, my own finances would be in trouble. It’s definitely not because I think your value is low.”
It’s pretty difficult, though.
The truth is, there are poor men too.
I suppose that’s still better than men who say other people’s allowances are too high and that their own low allowance is the only righteous one.
But in the end, it’s still just an excuse, and I guess it’s a hassle to simply let it go in one ear and out the other.
Well, it seems the best thing to say is simply:
“I’d like to ask for this allowance. If that doesn’t work for you, I’ll give up.”
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