From a papa’s perspective, are there girls they never get bored of? Can an arrangement really stay enjoyable for years?

Two months at most? Are you seeing each other every day or something? Or are you dragging things out for two months on a B allowance without having an adult relationship (intimate)? Personally, I decided not to count anyone I’d been seeing for less than three months among the people I dated when I was younger (lol). That aside, there’s the category of behavior and mannerisms: the conversation is boring, you don’t like their attitude, they’re demanding, and so on. Then there’s the physical category: sex is boring, they won’t kiss you even though you want to, or you’re not physically compatible. There’s also the issue of your schedules not lining up. Since you chose them based on their appearance, I’m assuming that part has already cleared the bar. Can you think of anything that might apply? These are also the things I look at when I’m seeing a man. But still, after two months, you’ve only just finished figuring out what kind of person she is, haven’t you? If things end at that point, it seems like there must be some kind of problem. Marika

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I feel that, at dating clubs, most relationships probably end sometime between the first meeting and about two months in. As for the girls you don’t get tired of—or rather, the ones whose relationships last—I think you’re right, Taro. It might be best to gradually show more of your true self as the relationship develops.

I’m Dai, a male member. A lot of women do end up being a two-month thing. Sometimes I’m intimate with someone and decide there won’t be a next time, or she starts asking for designer goods and I decide there won’t be a next time. You’ll always get tired of someone eventually, but I don’t lose interest in a woman I genuinely like after just two months. And even if I do get tired of someone, taking a break can make me interested again and want to be intimate with her.

I’m a male member and, honestly, kind of a loser. The women I’ve had the longest relationships with have always been the ones who never skimped on their efforts to look beautiful. The ones who showed through their actions—not just their words—that they wanted to stay beautiful for me were the ones things worked out with. That hasn’t changed, either back then or now that I’m a papa (a male supporter). Right now, my semi-ace girl has a very low beauty consciousness, so I’ve been giving her thorough guidance. She’s started making an effort, and little by little, I feel like she’s catching up to my absolute ace. And then there’s nighttime compatibility. I guess that’s what you’d call it? My ace’s dedication to sex is truly admirable. Normally, I’m always the host and she’s the guest, but when we have room dates, I’m the guest and she’s the host. She takes care of everything without me having to do a thing. She’ll even take off my socks and put them back on for me—without me asking. Everything, from massages onward. I suspect that women who manage to firmly keep hold of a generous (well-paying) papa are probably studying up on sex behind the scenes. Most likely.

I’m Hikōki, a male member. The more often we meet, the more we grow to like each other and the harder it becomes to stay apart, so my feelings only deepen over the years—I never get bored. I’ve had several romantic relationships and girlfriends that lasted over 20 years. So even with a papa-katsu woman, I believe that if we have even one-tenth of that connection, it would last at least two years. Judging from my past relationships, I think it would probably continue indefinitely and never change, no matter what happened—even if she were in an accident. In other words, I don’t want to be with someone I can’t feel that way about.

I’m Taro, a male member. If it only lasts two months at most, you’ve usually just reached the point where you’ve gone through the surface-level stuff. People who stop there are “putting on a persona for papa-katsu.” It’s the same with ordinary relationships: the longer you spend with someone, the more deeply you get to know them. That’s the difference. People who can maintain long-term arrangements are the ones who keep digging a little deeper each time and gradually build a closer relationship. That doesn’t mean their personalities are especially complicated or profound. You simply need to show your true self. Everyone is interesting enough just as they are. I’m not saying you have to reveal all your personal information or preferences. But after the first few meetings, I do think you need to shift gears from acting overly formal and focusing solely on the etiquette meant to increase the chances of continuing. Don’t just adapt to the other person—express your own opinions, like “I actually don’t like this,” or ask for things you want, such as “I’d like you to do this.” And by “ask for things,” I don’t mean asking them to buy you an expensive bag. I mean asking them to hug you or stroke your head. It’s good to gradually start voicing the things you’d like them to do. Of course, everyone has their own likes and dislikes, so it won’t work 100% of the time. But I think if you show your true self, there’s a certain chance you’ll find someone who wants a long-term arrangement. Even if what you really want is money, you’re better off being honest about that. I once met someone who was very money-focused, but whose straightforwardness I found endearing, and we continued for over a year. In the end, if you want to build something long-term, I think it’s important to have the courage to be yourself.

I’m Kazu, a male member. There are women I never get tired of. I’ve been seeing the two women I approached shortly after joining for over a year now.