Will male members complain if a female member has sex reluctantly the first time, then blocks him on LINE without meeting a second time?
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I registered two weeks ago.
The reason is money. I'm in a difficult financial situation and need a substantial amount of money as soon as possible. That is the only reason—nothing more, nothing less.
So I registered under dating type C, prepared to enter into an adult relationship (intimate) on the first meeting and accept the allowance, no matter how physically repulsed I felt by the man or how low-paying the allowance was.
I've met five men, but I haven't met anyone I'd want to continue seeing, regardless of their appearance, compatibility, or allowance.
However, I need the money, so I always have an adult relationship (intimate) at a hotel and accept the allowance.
Afterward, I send a thank-you message. Even when a man asks when I'm available to meet again, I tell him, “I'm busy this month, so I'll contact you again!” Then I block and delete him.
I'm sorry, but I cut things off after one meeting using the same method with every man...
If I could continue seeing them, it would make things easier financially, but I just can't bring myself to be physically intimate with them....
Even if it was only going to be once, I was accepting money, so I thought I had steeled myself to do my best even if I disliked it.
However, perhaps one man noticed how reluctant I was during the encounter. He told me:
“The allowance I'm giving you is an amount you couldn't earn even by working a full day at a daytime job at your age. It's an amount I can afford to pay only because I've worked hard to reach my current position. I want you to think more about what it means that you can earn that much in just a few hours.”
I asked him, “So you mean I shouldn't slack off during sex?”
He replied, “Well... yes.”
It's true that I tried to end things with the men as quickly as possible. I wanted them to finish quickly, tightly shut my eyes and held my breath during kissing, making my discomfort obvious, and finished oral sex quickly while grimacing. I did that with every man.
I assumed the man who pointed it out disliked me and wouldn't invite me again. But after we parted, he asked, “When can I see you again?” So I replied using the same method as usual, then blocked and deleted him.
When I accept an offer, I don't arrive late, I follow proper manners during the meal, and I respond attentively when the man talks, so I haven't done anything that would warrant a complaint.
It's just that I can't bring myself to have sex with any of them, so that's the one part where I act cold, then block and delete them.
I still have some offers pending and need to meet several more men. If I keep doing this, will I eventually receive complaints?
Would “the sex was careless” or “she became unreachable afterward” be grounds for a complaint?
Of course, I'd like to have a long-term relationship with someone I'm compatible with, and I do want to work hard at my activities through the dating club... for the money.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
> Do male members file complaints when a female member blocks them on LINE without meeting a second time?
Generally, I don’t think they do.
That’s because they’ve already been intimate once.
When they don’t get a reply about meeting a second time, it sometimes becomes more of a consultation than a complaint.
Something like:
“I’d like to see her again, but she isn’t replying. I wonder what I did wrong?”
In rare cases, someone might file a complaint, but then it becomes a matter of, “The woman hasn’t done anything wrong, has she?”
That said, blocking someone while saying you’re doing this for the money seems like your actions don’t match what you’re trying to achieve.
You’re receiving offers now because you’ve only just registered, but they’ll gradually decrease over time.
By the time the offers stop coming and you start worrying about it, it’ll already be too late. So, for emergencies, I think it’s better not to block them and at least keep in touch with a message like:
“Sorry, I’ve been busy.”
That way, you may still be able to contact them and meet them once the offers stop coming.
For some reason, there seem to be women who expect offers to keep coming at the same pace as when they first registered, but in reality, the number of offers decreases over time.
I think it’s worth considering what you’ll do so you won’t be left struggling when that happens.
Of course, you don’t need to force yourself.
You also don’t have to date someone you simply can’t stand being around.
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This isn’t the place for you.
What one papa said is absolutely right.
You’re doing papa-katsu because you can’t support yourself through the value of your own abilities, right?
You need to respond properly. Otherwise, it’s disrespectful—and who do you think you are?
Akari
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I’m a male member, Papercraft.
If you can put up with it, you’d be better off earning more efficiently somewhere else.
If you’re not enjoying yourself, it’s not really papa-katsu, and there’s no way either side can keep it going.
At worst, you could stop receiving offers and end up leaving the service almost immediately. Actually, that might be better for both of you.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I think you’ll eventually receive some negative feedback.
The quality of the papas is definitely better than those at other clubs or on papa-katsu apps. So if you meet five people and can’t find even one papa you’d like to continue seeing, you’re probably not suited to working through a club. Your negative feedback will likely increase, your profile will become less visible, and you’ll receive fewer offers.
Is the allowance too low? Then why not just say so from the start? Tell them, “I’m not comfortable with an adult relationship unless the allowance is ___.”
That’s a strange way of thinking.
I can understand doing papa-katsu because you don’t want to be with a different person every time or because you don’t like being unable to say no, and therefore don’t want to work in the adult-entertainment industry.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Isn’t it more accurate to say you haven’t received any complaints? You did respond to the initial offer, after all, so at least you helped the men save face.
But since you block them immediately, you wouldn’t know—maybe the men aren’t actually offering ongoing arrangements either. Your reluctance probably comes through, so perhaps one of them finally couldn’t take it anymore and gave you some advice.
Even if you meet someone you’d like to continue seeing, continuing the arrangement might be difficult. You might get blocked, lol.
You seem better suited to working in the sex industry than to this.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
I don’t think I’m cut out for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
I don’t want to cause trouble for the papas either, so please leave the service.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If you go to a hotel with everyone, isn’t that basically the same as working in the adult entertainment industry? Places like soaplands have clear rules, and since you’re beautiful, I’m sure you’d have plenty of customers. Unlike papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you wouldn’t have to block anyone either. It seems like there would be nothing but advantages—what do you think?
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I’m a male member—and a total loser.
If you’re in Nagoya, there’s a truly wonderful male member named Mac, so why not send him a reverse offer?
He’s a handsome, mature gentleman, great in bed, and you could continue on a pay-per-meeting arrangement at the going Nagoya rate of 70,000 yen. ♪
As for me, I’m a short, bald, fat, poorly endowed, uncircumcised old man with body odor, jock itch, athlete’s foot, and extremely bad breath. I’m also only attracted to B-type women, so I only make offers to them. In other words, I’m the papa (a male supporter) you’d hate most. Sorry.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
>> “The allowance I give you is more than you could earn from a full day of daytime work at your age. It’s an amount I can afford to pay only because I worked hard to reach my current position. I want you to think more about what it means to earn that much in just a few hours.”
Well, I think that’s absolutely right.
You’re approaching papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with the understanding that it’s essentially adult entertainment, aren’t you? If so, don’t you think it’s self-contradictory that you’re not holding up your end of the arrangement?
Rather than taking shortcuts to make money, developing the skills to earn it properly will continue to bring you money even after you’re no longer young.
Sometimes, taking the long way around is the fastest route.
If you keep going like this and end up damaging your mental health, you’ll only be taking an even bigger detour.
Your mental well-being matters, so you should walk away—for both your papa’s sake and your own.
From your papa’s perspective, I’m sure this is causing him trouble, too.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’ve never had anyone go along with something so reluctantly, but if my date seemed uncomfortable, I’d probably leave feedback along the lines of, “It was disappointing that she seemed reluctant.”
Given your approach, I think you’d get more offers—and be more efficient—by looking for compensated-dating partners on a dating site or working part-time at an adult-entertainment establishment. That way, you wouldn’t have to have dinner with anyone you find physically repulsive.
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