Q. Is it difficult to take action, such as providing feedback, when it’s after the second meeting?
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⚫︎¥170,000 per month (5–10 dates), paid at the end of the month, adult relationship (intimate)
This was a papa (a male supporter) I had been seeing under the above arrangement for two months.
I want to continue seeing multiple papa supporters, so I explained that at our first meeting and received his agreement.
Sometimes he would call, and if I couldn’t answer because I was at work, he would message me saying, “We can’t see each other anymore.” Then, when I contacted him after work, he would act as if nothing had happened and make plans to meet. He was a somewhat emotionally unstable papa with a temper.
At the end of last month, around the time I was supposed to receive my allowance, we met in his car. Before handing me the money, he said, “I want you to cut ties with all the other papa supporters.”
I told him that I had explained this when we first met, and that he had agreed to it.
Perhaps that touched a nerve, because he suddenly started hurling abuse at me, saying things like:
“You meet all kinds of men and sleep with them, so there’s no love involved.”
“You’re just a pathetic woman who wants to do it.”
He then went berserk inside the car, pounding the steering wheel and screaming at me to get out.
I genuinely felt that my life was in danger, so I got out immediately and started heading home. But less than three minutes later, he called to apologize and asked me to come back, so I returned to the car. In the end, he gave me the money that day, and we acted as if we had made up and behaved normally. However, I have no intention of seeing him again…
This happened after our second meeting, and perhaps I should have lied and told him I wasn’t seeing anyone else.
I don’t think I’ll ever see him again, but I can’t help worrying that he may do the same thing to other women from Universe in the future. I can’t feel at ease about it…
Is it really difficult to have him warned about his violent behavior?.
He’s an attention seeker who can’t even control himself, so he may well be abusive at home.
Please report him, and I’d also appreciate it if you could leave a note for the club, such as: “He’s quite possessive,” or “He prefers someone who will focus exclusively on him” (with a low-paying monthly arrangement).
Please put your safety first and take every security measure available.
Akari
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This is Ayase Nana ♡
Are you okay? You must have been really scared.
At this point, it’s not just being “mentally unstable”—it’s an illness.
It’s serious enough to require treatment, so why not talk things over with the staff and come up with a plan?
(I’m sure they’ll help you—probably.)
Please provide feedback even after the second meeting.
You didn’t tell him your home or workplace, did you?
Please contact us today. Thank you.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Please do give feedback. The post is very clear as it is, and I think you’ve done a good job of describing the situation so people can judge what kind of person he is.
My main concern is your safety.
I think you should do everything you can to cut ties. Simply blocking him may not be enough, since you can’t know how he’ll react or what might set him off. So I recommend ending things carefully and thoughtfully.
That said, please avoid meeting him again just to cut ties, and choose another way to do it if possible.
Since you’ve been seeing each other for two months, you may know a fair amount about each other’s private lives. Please proceed with caution.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
> Is it difficult to receive feedback or take action when it’s about a second meeting or later?
Please continue sending feedback to the club, even after the second meeting. We will take action.
That said, naturally, it becomes difficult to do anything if the man says, “That’s my freedom, isn’t it?”
However, if a man who says things like that goes on to commit even a minor violation of the rules, we can force him to leave the club.
The staff also want to remove men who do whatever they please. It’s just difficult unless there’s a clear violation of the rules.
If you send us feedback, we can remove bad men from the club, so please keep sending it.
One thing to keep in mind, though: try to leave your emotions out as much as possible and write down the facts only.
As for this particular case, we would first confirm the facts with the man.
There’s a good chance he might say something like:
“I didn’t do anything. She just got angry on her own and got out of the car. We had a little argument, but did you really send feedback about that? We went to a hotel afterward and things got intimate, so we’ve already made up. But I’ll be more careful from now on.”
And that may be where it ends.
That’s why, ideally, it would be helpful to have a recording of what happened at the time. Then Universe would have various ways to respond.
Even if you don’t have anything like that this time, please still send us your feedback.
Even if the matter ends with an excuse like the one above, the staff may not know the truth for certain, but we’ll probably feel that the woman’s account is more likely to be accurate.
Then, if we receive similar feedback from another woman in the future, it will become clear that the women were right.
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It’s Me here.
You should report this to the club immediately.
The club will definitely take action.
This level of possessiveness is practically criminal.
> Maybe I should have said I wasn’t seeing anyone else, even if it was a lie.
No, no—if you lie and get caught, your life could genuinely be in danger.
Even if you’re confident you can keep up the lie, they could stalk you, hide a GPS tracker on you, or do who knows what.
This isn’t just being “mentally unstable”—I think it’s a serious illness.
Maybe bipolar disorder or manic depression?
It’s not a particularly rare illness, and effective treatments have been established, so they should receive proper treatment at a medical institution and learn to manage it.
If left alone, both they and the people around them will remain in a dangerous situation.
Even if they do something serious, they may not be held legally responsible if it’s considered a symptom of their illness.
This is someone who shouldn’t be allowed in the club.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I do think it would be better to give her feedback, but this isn’t something she can fix just by being told to be more careful.
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I’m a male member who’s been losing out.
If any male member has ever told you in a past offer, “I’ve had a vasectomy, so I want you to let me finish inside you without a condom,” please leave feedback on him as well.
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